Yes, but maybe you ask people who suffered all those things, and they would say something like "I was lucky, I thought it would be worse." It is something relative.

What you say is right, such an answer is definitely realistic. But it is given by a person who has already reflected on a situation for himself, it does not usually come from someone who is still stuck in the situation of suffering, who has not yet come to "an end".

However, a person who dies alone, without his close ones and the close one who could not accompany the dying person, most likely won't give such an answer. Because he knows that he would not say that he was lucky and that it could have been worse. Not for that particular situation, not for those particular people.

A person who finds that the loss of his job, his wealth, his reputation is something frightening, finds it very difficult to get into the reflection situation and would say something like the same about himself: it could have been worse, because he is permanently in the avoidance attitude that "what is must remain the same" and he does not realise that it has long since changed. What could follow at some point would be a total identitary catastrophe due to the shameful realisation that what one had wanted to keep is long gone, but one still acts as if one has to preserve it. Do you understand what I mean?

if we compare someone from a rich country to someone from a poor country. The person from the rich country probably sees the poor and believes that is suffering, and does not imagine what his life would be like if he were like this, and believes it is unacceptable. But then you ask the poor guy and he says "I'm fine." And that's because that's good for him.

Thank you for bringing that up. It's a very very good point and I sometimes thought of it, for I exactly know what you mean. When someone pities another one and is actually wasting his time. Cause the other one does not need to be pitied.

All those people who were beaten, went to prison, were captured, lost their jobs, were separated from their relatives, eventually got over it. Eventually they got on with their lives, eventually they found a way to fix it. They did not stay there and live an eternal hell, but that also pass.

Again, true. From a meta perspective you are right. All those people we've mentioned will overcome a situation or will not overcome it.
What I meant though, these people are not alone, they pave circles around them. And also, you can become so severely traumatized that you make so much trouble and suffering for those around you, that you overburden, overwhelm them, demand over-attention and don't let others live in peace.
I have to ask for your trust in this, ... I met a lot of people during my work who were "ALL OVER THE PLACE"- to give you a vivid expression. Now, how many of us ordinaries, do you think, can even handle humans like that, when they appear in the thousands (a situation we are facing right now, if you ask me)? All those humans need to heal, to calm down, to find fresh places of quietness and inspiration, to be left alone, yet to be integrated in a loving and accepting manner. Under a constant situation of tension this is hard to endure and it WILL leave people suffering and not wanting to deal with it.

Often enough, we only give one or the other: Leaving us alone (isolated) or being all over the place (invading ones borders). This is not an orderly field of movement, it's a distorted one.

But of course, as always, you make important points.

Are you at risk of losing your job? Would you describe this, in any way, as a crisis? Do you see any way to solve this? Or is it something you don't have to solve because you say you see it as a relief?

I am a freelancer and have two major contractors who engage me the whole year. This contracts were stable over the course of the last 9-7 years. The longer business relationship now came to an end. The manager was not accepting my mask exemption when the rules toughened up in January and was not willing to discuss alternatives or solutions from my side (we had two changes in management since the old boss retired - the newest manager started last February and we hardly got to know each other when quarantine and all the jazz started - she is a great deal younger than me). She fired me.

Now, the situation leaves me standing on one leg. So I won't be able to compensate for another similar contractor as nobody likes or will hire someone foreign to the company AND someone who does not wear a mask.

I am right now still in the process how I will react to that.

In the past, they used to say: "He was dismissed with just a wet handshake". Today, you don't even have the not-seriously-meant handshake (HaHa!! I find it particularly funny to say that nowadays), today you do something like that by email. ...So I am thinking to go there in person and say good bye to two of my colleagues, to which I had a closer relationship. But you know, it very well could be that they won't let me in, for I am not wearing the damn mask...

There is no actual solution but it puts me into a situation which changes the whole game. I was reluctant to face a total game change when it comes to earning money. But, I felt relief, because working under the current requirements in that particular place goes against my nature and if you look at it THAT way, the boss did me a favor to fire me. I will not bend to her demands, and I owe it not only to me, but I guess also to her that she can see that there are people who show some backbone.

If you have an advice for me, let me know. Or more questions, please ask. I need to make up my mind.