I share that surprise. I recently had exactly this debate with two people and it is truly amazing how quickly someone is prepared to wish that you put pressure on others. A friend of mine told me that she thought the lockdown measures were quite right, because she herself would probably have shown little consideration if it had been communicated differently. For me, this has to do with the early childhood acceptance of punishment, after which the punishment is recognized as correct and the free decision as irrelevant. Those who think of themselves as inferior seem to transfer this to their fellow world and are unable or unwilling to distinguish their own from others. This destructive self-image is probably what makes it seem, since everyone was controlled and punished in his childhood, that hardly anyone has developed and freed himself from it in the course of his life. But instead of using every new opportunity that presents itself for this liberation - it is never too late as long as one lives - every opportunity passes by as a further confirmation of a negative view of man and the world. It constantly unsettles me anew.

But I can see for myself how difficult it is to express encouragement to someone, to see their strong potential and willingness to work together and to develop this together, when one has such a supposedly oppositional attitude. I feel the division very strongly at the moment and there is a real distance to previous friends who, it seems, find it almost as impossible to be with me as vice versa. It is a dilemma. We're basically fighting each other and that's what makes me row back and I say we should do it differently.