Greeting from here, am glad to come across this amazing community on the hive platform, i feel i have a few thought to share here, at least to continually relief myself of the load as well as helping someone out there who needs help.
i will be sharing my last night deep thought of how my experience have become an history.
Yeah, last night was a long one, I was kept awake even at late hours of the night, i wanted to sleep but the thought of how my past has become an history has kept me from sleep, from a minute to over 3 hours, engaging on this reflection, it’s with great joy that I share but the reflection, brings me into a mixed feeling, thereby sensing that there could be someone who is of the opinion that give up with life will make things better, that use to be my thought but there is a better and more perfect life if you can journey a little with me.
I never believed there could be a better life for me than what I had then, It all started back then when I was younger, I had a few friends, we were very close but my experience was the opposite of theirs, many time they will be favored, help will easily come for them but for me, it was a no no, it went on and on, life became tiring for me, at some point I gave up on many opportunities, I told myself there is no need to try, my dreams died, motivations were gone, taking my life became a frequent option, I tried many things at many occasions but I believe that God kept me alive for specific purpose.
My life literally ended, I had no plans for myself, no dreams no vision nor goals, I was just living to see the next day, as such I was daily angry with myself, I lost self-compassion, I couldn’t forgive myself, talk more of self-care, it became my new life but on a good day I stumble into a write-up about self-care and forgiveness, it was more like it was written for me.
That became a turning point for me, because I could hear a voice deep inside me saying, you are more than this, I checked myself on the mirror, I was seeing the same person but that article kept echoing in my spirit until my life came afresh.
Today I can reach out to lives on a daily bases and add value because of the three things I want to share with you.
Please do your best to take it easy with yourself, don’t kill yourself for the negative emotion Be gentle with yourself, allow it but be aware of those emotional habits, remember that you are still an human, engage yourself with positive mental creative activities that will help counter the painful thought
Sometimes in an experience like this it is hard to forgive yourself, you can do to others, do away with that guilty conscience and regret. Keep yourself away from sadness or anger and let go the past.
You will have to develop skills and techniques that effectively helps you relax and reduce stress maximally, this was for me one of the amazing experience, I will find a recreation arena, were I can have some fresh ventilation, I will take a deep breath, it’s so refreshing, you feel like years have been regained in few seconds.
Discipline yourself by reducing rumination, stay focus on your newly design and set goals, be very intentional.
There are many things that will help remind you of your past, you will have to intentionally keep yourself from all reminding factors, such as keeping yourself away from some people who will remind you of your past, even on the social media.
Thanks for having me, this was my reflection last night, I do hope this will be useful to someone who needs to come out of a past life or experience to the real beautiful life designed for you to enjoy. Your friend 
