Too little or too much of anything can become a serious problem for the child. The parent or guardian has to master how to create a balance, doing everything in the appropriate proportion.
Children vary in their thoughts, their character, and their conscience, but there are two things that have proven to move people, whether young or old, and they are punishment and reward. These two can move almost everyone; punishment creates fear and chases people from doing wrong, while reward motivates them to do better.
Both rewards and punishments play a vital role in the life of a child. I can remember when I was young, my father never joked about punishments.
When you are wrong, you can not escape flogging or other forms of punishment. Those days, we thought he hated us; we even dreaded him at some point.
But that is not all; we also feared committing offences because of punishments, and that fear guided us and prevented us from making certain mistakes in life.
In raising a child, punishment has a big role to play in order to make the equation balanced, but caution must be applied. Transfer of aggression and anger should be avoided by all means. The aim is to correct the child and not to maltreat him or her.
In the same way, rewards always play a vital role in training a child. Even adults honor rewards no matter how small they are, how much more so children?
If a child does something good, the child should be rewarded. In doing so, you will motivate the child to do even more.
Reward is also a form of lesson to the child, but one must also be mindful of how they reward; too much of everything is bad. When the reward becomes too much, it will become ordinary, and the child will lose interest.
Rewards should be worth it, but it must never look like a right to the child. It has to be based on your will as a parent, guardian, or teacher and not because the child demanded it.
To sum everything up, giving either punishment or rewards alone without the other is not complete. The two have to come together to make everything balanced.
Inculcating the two will make the child conscious of what is wrong and what is good.
The child will understand when they did wrong and when they did the right thing when a reward and punishment are given appropriately, but if it's one, he or she may only know about that aspect of life alone.
This is what makes certain children either resistant to punishment or overly dependent on rewards. If you don't give them gifts, you can't assign a task for them to carry out for you.
If you beat them or assign any punishment, they don't feel remorse. That very thing has already become a part of them, and it's always difficult to change a child in that condition.
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