Hey guy's how are you all doing today? am good myself and today I will be talking about TOXIC MARRIAGE. Hmmm first of all lemme ask the married ones how's your marriage going so far? is it going the way you planned it or the way God planned it?.
Well it might be going the way you planned it because you listened to God's instructions and warnings and also paid attention to red flags during your courtship, and it might not be going the way God planned it because you refused to pay attention to God's instructions and also take note of red flags during courtship all in the name of love.
My people I am not a married woman but relationship is almost annoying and difficult despite the fact that we are best friends, I can remember asking my friend some days back how will one cope in marriage if relationship is this hard, talk more of those that are married and there is no form of friendship between the two of them, it is either from one chaos to another.
The worse part or annoying part of it is the fact that when a woman find themselves in a toxic marriage they refuse to leave all because of what the society would say about them, the mockery they would face from their community, the side talks and gossips. Now lemme tell you exactly what people would say when you die as a result of toxic marriage,
a. Oh God why didn't she leave ?
b. Oh God why did she stay and endured to death ?
c. Oh God the society is so cruel to women
d. Oh God she was so kind she didn't deserve to die like that, etc.
The same society you are afraid of what they would say will still blame you if you die in that toxic marriage, they will say exactly what they said when Mrs osinachi the famous Nigerian gospel singer died.
I Know that it's a shame not being able to built a good home, but it's also a bigger shame to your family and children if you die like a chicken. If your partner is not helping you mix sand and cement to build your marriage then leave, a person can not all the job by herself you must have another person that's passing the cement mixture across to you.
I will always say this, if it's becomes too toxic my sister run oh because of your life to avoid had I known in your grave. it's so annoying and painful when we hear of deaths that happened as a result of toxic marriage. Bringing children up in such environment is totally bad, it can cause harm to their sense of reasoning. The male child will start feeling it's okay to beat their wife while the female will either grow up to hate men or decide to get married to a man she can have superiority over.
Men please if you no longer see those features that you saw in her years ago before marrying her pls divorce her and make it clear, it is better than bringing bad name upon yourself and also avoiding mockery for your children from their class mates as it will damage them and it will take the grace of God for them to become normal again.
Learn to treat your wife like a queen like she is and stop comparing her body shape that became shapeless because of child bearing to that of a young girl who has not gone through the process of child bearing pls allow your wife's big stomach to rest the only crime she committed was making you a father nothing else. That process took away her body shape from her and make made lack confidence, it is you the man that should be helping regain her confidence back and not raining insults on her every single day.
Remember even the Bible is against men that treats their wife badly.
lastly for the men a little love shown to your wife by you can be multiplied, note that women are natural,they multiply whatever you give to them. Therefore if you want a peaceful marriage give your beautiful wife peace, and she will give you not just a peaceful marriage but a peaceful Home as well.
A woman is the actual reflection of that bad character you think you don't have and that's what leads to toxic marriage.
Now to the ladies, I like to start with a question, please while in courtship did you not see the red flags? Because it is always there, nobody can hide it ahbi you saw the red flags and decided to ignore? Okay oh! I want you to know that your husband is your King therefore before deciding on who to spend the rest of your life with, please decide well oh don't go and chose a headless king all in the name of love.
Because you go turn em slave lol. When you finally choose your King, learn to respect him, Learn to serve him like a king, be his Peace and always let him always find comfort in your arms.
But if you choose a headless king just know that nothing you do will please him, if you like sleep on the floor and let him be stepping on you everyday, when you are done you will still collect gbas gbos plus wuoto wuoto pro max. Lastly, ladies pls stop rushing into marriage because your age mates are all married and you are not or marrying to pepper your fellow girl, the Truth is we will all come and celebrate with you. But be aware that after the celebration we will all go back to our various homes and you will be stocked with the reality of marriage especially when you marry wrongly, and the person you want to pepper will be chilling in her father's house or her house with excess peace of mind. Any ways MARRIAGE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING DON'T GET IT TWISTED
Thanks for reading, bye.
