What does it mean to be a good person? Is it to be true to your values, or to be the culturally and politically acceptable definition of good in the times? Oftentimes in the past I heard and judged fellow Christians on behaviours and opinions that I didn't seem very Christian like, but looking back I wonder if all my positions were justified.
The bible does give us a solid definition of what values a good Christian should hold. It states that we should love/trust good with all our hearts; and we should love our neighbours even as we love ourselves. Those two laws, especially the second one have come to encompass so much via way of meaning in present times. True and genuine love is not a call to stupidity or unrestricted niceness. It certainly isn't a call to pretense as we increasingly see in the World today.
Love is understanding, what it is not is compromise. We don't surrender all we hold dear because we're trying to accommodate another person. We also don't seek to please the other in the name of love. People that genuinely love themselves are quite firmly rooted in their values and highly convicted in their relationship with others. They know when to place limits and will not compromise to please. Protecting the things we love and hold dear does require a fair degree of selfishness.
Life is also very complex and sometimes things are not always in black and white. Actions that are done with the best of intentions can be presented to give off an entirely different meaning. I certainly don't pay much attention to those who take a self righteous stance on issues, especially when it has nothing to do with personal convictions but cheap Rhetorics. It takes little effort to hop on an existing bandwagon but the real test comes from being able to stand by your convictions in the face of a stern test.