A lot of people neglected some vital and important things while in relationships that later they felt betrayed and heartbroken by someone that once claimed they love or have been in a relationship with. Relationships red flags are signs and warming that will tell you something toxic or unhealthy happened in your beautiful relationship that you need to look into it and evaluate it steadily. At times, it shows in an early stage or develop as time goes on.
When your partner is very jealous or shown an over possivesnes, is something one needs to look into it. When your partner trying always to controls you, control and tell you the kind of people you should associates with and kind of people not to associate with. Tell you places to go to and also places not to go. And tell you the kinds of clothes you must wear wherever you are going out with him or her and if you couldn't wear such clothes then he or she won't go out with you anymore.
Wherever one of the partner avoid tough conversations, and there's no constant communications between you people anymore like before. He or she dismissed an issue without proper settlement or dismiss your feeling instantly. Each time you tried to have a peaceful conversations with him or her but it doesn't end well. Later on he buys you gift, shower you with affection while you have misunderstanding yet to be settled, the person is just looking for a way to manipulate you later. One person is trying to dominate the other person and having a dismissive attitudes, such is a red flag that many have ignored but later regretted.
Constant lying, and keeping of secrets and hiding necessary informations from each other and neglecting one another personal needs is a red flags. At time one of the partner will be insultive, and making jerk of you as a form of jokes. Any form of disguises form of insults is a red flag warning. What about neglecting one emotional and physical attention, One person doesn't pay attention to the other emotional needs and physical needs.
I have a female friend who once told me her boyfriend dictate her choices of clothes and appearances, and even her social media life and he gives her mixed signals she doesn't understand anymore. I told her to be mindful of red flags in her relationship. After few months she told me she caught him cheating on her with a another lady she even knew. She said no wonder the man always blamed her for little mistakes and never admit his fault wherever they had misunderstanding and want to settle it. I told her she has been neglecting this warming signals for a while now till now that it has developed and became something she couldn't handle it anymore and that even led to the end of their relationship.
Be very mindful of someone who constantly remind you of your past bad lives experiences whenever you people had issues with no sense of remorse. How can you be in a relationship with someone who prevent you from having friends and meeting your family members, the person doesn't respect your family, without showing any entitlement and empathy, and you don't know is a red flag warning already? Sure, it's a red flag.
Everytime you are with him or her, instead of feeling defensive you felt reflective, you feel anxious instead of having peace of mind, you lose your sense of self worth and doesn't feel protected around him . This are red flags in the relationship you should never taken for granted.
One or two relationship red flags does not mean your relationship is about to crashed or got broken, but how constantly those red flags kept repeating itself should not be neglected or ignored. If these relationship red flags kept repeating and persisting in the relationship, meeting a relationship counselor or ending up the relationship is better for your own safety and healthy living and Peace of mind. Healthy relationships have mutual trust, forgiveness, support, respect, communication and self-defense for one another.
When you know these red flags and become cautious towards it, you will be informed and be able to know where you belong in that relationship. An incident occured some time ago, a lady was rushed to the hospital am working full of blood all over her body. The nurses that were present at the wards came out and took the lady in to the female ward and admitted her as soon as possible. Later on our director came and asked those people that brought her to the hospital what happened. One of the person that brought her told our director it was the lady's boyfriend that she is staying with that beat her up badly these way.
And she further said this is not even the first time he is beating her. He has been beating her occasionally countless times she could remembered because she's their neighbor. When I overheard what the person was telling our director It got me angry and thinking how would a lady will be staying with her boyfriend who constantly beat her occasionally and yet instead of walking away from such toxic and abuse relationship she still stayed and live with him in his house. Could that be because she loves him so much or she is blind of what he has been doing to her. She didn't know that's a clear straight headed relationship red flags? Your life and well-being is very important. Never stayed with anyone who constantly beat you and doesn't value you.
If you noticed such red flags and approach the person about it and the person doesn't see anything bad about it, or doesn't want to amend and change from such behavior or feelings no sense of remorse for anything bad at all is better you walk away from such abusive and toxic relationship. A broken relationship is far better than a broken marriage. Safe yourself and walk away from such relationship.
Never ignores red flags in your relationships, because is a sign and warnings of what will or might happen to you later in the journey of your relationship.
