Here is Mr and Mrs Timothy James whom got wedded yesterday being Sunday in Evangelistic Reform church of Christ, ERCC gloryLand Lafia of Nasarawa State. Timothy is my elder brother's best friend, they have been friends for a very long time and they shared a lot of things in common. They don't hide things from each other and they love and respect each other. They support each other wherever one is in trouble, their friendship is a one of a kind and is has profitable friendship to both of them.
When Timothy told my elder brother he wants to get marry but he doesn't have enough money or resources to organize a big or an elaborate wedding just like the way people are doing now. People went to an extent of even borrowing money and collecting load of money to have a big wedding to showcase themselves and make it public on social media to see how big and beautiful the background of the wedding event is.
But Mr Timothy is a well trained and understanding person, who doesn't want to borrowed or collect any load just to do a big wedding and after everything he couldn't pay back the load and end up being a mess. Timothy is a principles person, he doesn't want to do something that will put him in a problem or cause him and his wife serious depths after the wedding. He spoke to his wife and she accepted they should do a wedding both of them can afford.
A wedding that their bank account can afford and inviting people and preparing the food the guests will cook according their low budgets.I don't know how much is the total budget for the wedding but of course my elder brother being the best man to the groom I was also invited to the wedding. When we got to the wedding, the event place wasn't too big , only one or two canopies was put and arranged in place. The church were filled with church members and his friends turn on for the wedding.
Here is Esla William and I in this particular picture. Esla is my cousin brother from Abuja, he also came to the wedding. We gist and snapped pictures together.
Esla told me he likes the way Mr Timothy organized his wedding, is very simple and easy and affordable.
There's not too much canopies all over the places, the invited guests aren't much and the event place is small but well organized and beautified.
Joy also came for the wedding, joy lives in keffi, a long distance friend to the groom . She's very beautiful and very friendly person. We snap together with her. Joy said this is the kind of wedding she and her future husband will do. She said they will do a wedding that they can afford and capable of hosting the numbers of people they could feed.
She told she wants to do a wedding that after everything she and her husband will not be in too much depths that they couldn't pay back. That instead of enjoying their marriage they will be thinking on how to pay those depths.
And most importantly even with the little people that have supported them during the wedding instead of building their own home they will use it and pay depths.
Seriously, I don't condemned the idea of organizing a big wedding , if you have the money to organize a big and elaborate wedding that you can invite so many people and feed a large numbers of people that's good and even me if I have the money I can do that.
But if you don't enough money or resources please do a simple wedding your resources can afford. It's your wedding and not their wedding. It should be a celebration of love and a gathering of convenience to you and your wife even after the whole wedding process.
Don't go extra mile to collect a load to organize a big wedding to impress people and for social media sake and end up paying depths that's more than what you have gotten during the wedding.
Truly, even me I have learned a great lesson in this wedding. Marriage or wedding is not a competition or contest to see who have the most beautiful wedding or big wedding in the town.
Never let other people big wedding intimate you and make you frustrated because you doesn't have the resources to have such a big wedding as theirs. Do exactly what you can afford and move on with your life .