Cats and lover
I sometimes wish my relationship with a lover is like a cat.
I expect little from the cat. I don't expect advice about my life and I don't want her to empathize with the daily routine of hard or pleasant. All she has to do is stay beside me when I get home. Depending on the cat's mood on that day, it can stick to me and sometimes be black, but it's all right.
The cat probably wants little from me. If I give her meal on time, change your bathroom, and check if she is sick every day, the day with the cat is just soso. Sometimes or often without paying attention, she doesn't get mad at me, and she keeps my mind calm.
To abandon expectations in moderation. It is difficult and important in any situation. But it was especially difficult for people, especially in relationships with lovers. Why can't we love our lover just like we love cats?
First of all, people are not cute than cats. If at least someone tells me I'm prettier than a cat, I'll be told not to open my mouth no matter how sweet the atmosphere is. Anyways, if we love someone else, it will have different levels of expectations that the cat can't expect. I would like something more high-dimensional that always confirms my preciousness. However, the actions of the other party that satisfy such expectations are not consistent with the cute behavior of the cat. The expectation that my lover will always have the ability and will to actively make me happy gradually fade over time.
It's not bad enough here. Even if my lover is not as cute as a cat, wouldn't it be enough if he lived a life that was as good as a cat? I'm going to make a good living myself anyway. Some people have said that it is a stable and healthy relationship to be able to keep one's head above water.
But people are even more crafty than cats. Although selfish, in a vertical relationship with the cat, you don't have to worry if it hurts me or leaves me all of a sudden. There are many things you can expect from a horizontal relationship with a person, but many things you can worry about. Maybe that's why they want to express and confirm love they don't want.
And so adultery that one day he wants a lover like a cat, and another he wants a lover like a man. I hope that someday I will stick to my daily routine but at some point I hope for a proper distance. I hope that our expectations are right on the timing of each other's feelings, and we don't want to do it properly, but in most situations, our two minds mix like warm iced Americanos and run into a lukewarm state. And lukewarm drinks are generally unattractive. It is also pointless to believe that we will be able to bear the tepidness and eventually find the temperature we want. Expectations for the future are largely unanswered. The more specific the future is, the more so.
Sometimes it's not a love affair, but I just want to live like a cat. Like the guy who's been climbing no tasks, no tests, no complicated relationships. Even then, I feel pity for what I can do because I am a human being. Man is so crafty.
In the end, he decided to accept and accept even the simple act. To me, to past, to future relationships. Life and romance are somehow fun unless I stick to my dream of myself, my lover, and my expectations about the world and the future. Of course, there are things you can look forward to. For example, a cat is cute, or I am worth being loved.
