Hello, ladies. I've been thinking about posting in this community for a while but it felt weird, still does, to be honest. However, since it's open to everyone willing to discuss the topics sensitive to women around the globe, I finally decided to give it a shot.
First off, my name is Javier Liendo and I live in Venezuela. Some of you may know my work, but for those who don't, I'm into spirituality, read Runes and use Astrology, among other things. During my personal process, I've had to make deep reviews of my past, the most relevant of them for this context have had to do with my female relationships, relatives, friends and couples. I've talked about that in detail in previous posts, if you feel that I should share them here for you to better understand what I'm saying, let me know. I'll read through my content and extract the information in a different publication.
I've identified times where I was verbally and psychologically transgressive toward women and also when I was myself the subject of abuse on their part. I've worked hard on those things in order to liberate myself from the weight of that record, asking for forgiveness and also forgiving, even allowing myself to become the channel of that forgiveness on behalf of all other men to the best of my ability. Thanks to this work, I've developed enormous awareness of the plights of women worldwide both now and in other moments of history, which has made me far more respectful of their personal space, but I've been noticing that, due to some very disheartening encounters, this respect has been turning into a distant, mistrustful attitude that I don't like at all and that I think has begun to hinder my approach to romantic and sexual attraction in particular.
To give you some idea of what I mean, I stopped staring at any woman's body even on social media regardless of how attractive she might be, preferring to look them in the eye if possible or just move on entirely. I also never initiate physical contact unless expressly invited to do so, and then only to the extent that I feel is appropriate depending on the woman's response. Moreover, I generally listen and observe more than I talk. I've realized that many women find this off-putting and strange, though, and I'd really like to resume a more playful, fun interaction from now on, so here's the question: How do you like to be treated by a man, especially a stranger?
Thank you in advance for your replies!