The toxic parents make the adult children very conscious about themselves and more importantly how to grow the love feeling and what it exactly means. It creates tremendous confusion for them. The parents make us understand love as chaotic and dramatic. They do all sort of unloving things in the name of affection. And sometimes, they define love as painful. So as to give up their values and own dreams, desires for. We all know, that's not what love is all about.
Loving doesn't means grinding us down or keep our balances' off, or self-hatred. Love is not supposed to make us feel hurt, it is for us to feel good, good about ourselves, surroundings and everything. It nourishes our emotional well-being. When someone accept us, care for us, we feel valued and respected. AND THAT's MY FRIEND WHAT LOVE IS.
If the love is genuine, the warmness of it will make us feel secured, give us pleasure and stability in our lives.
About all, it will give us INNER-PEACE.
