Falling in love is the the most euphoric feeling in the world. You just want to be with the person every single second. Being away physically for even a short while will seems so long. For that temporary separation, there is a feeling of emptiness and void that only be fulfilled by the presence of the other person. A pang of emptiness is hard to explain but the evidence is seen by the feeling of lost.

But that quickly change , as there is certainty in the relationship. The moment you know that the person is always there, you tend to take them for granted over time. The passion becomes less intend unless there is continuous effort to keep the flame going. The same person that makes you feel all quizzy inside can become the very person that invoke a strong negative response. Thats its why marriages break up.

I have been married for 21 years and during the journey , there are many moments of ups and downs. It was like a climate change. There was a time in my life when the storm seems never ending to the point of giving up. As the quarrel die down, there is a time to reflect on what had happen. There are triggers that cause unhappiness. Behavioural triggers by my wife that did not meet my expectation. I had to learn to let go and focus on defining happiness.

After 21 years of marriage, i realise , happiness does not depend on the other person or circumstances. It depend on my interpretation of the situation. I am now much free because i do not base on my wife meeting my expectation. Its not an easy to let go and trust the other person. But that is marriage , trust is the foundation in any marriages. Yes, trust can be taken for granted and be needs to be tended to every single day. It is a daily commitment to do something good and beautiful for your partner. Is so obvious that marriages is seen more of a contract rather than a bond. Contract gets broken every time when either party do not fulfil the requirement. So the solution is just divorce. Sometimes marriages is treated like tv game show. In the olden days , marriage are sacred and meant for life. I think nowadays, it is treated as a convenience.

Is marriages for married couple? the answer is no. You can still obtain happiness while being single. But the joy of having a family and having someone to love is another plane of experience. Be ready to expect stormy weather ahead but as you become more skilful in relationship ,you will be able to navigate the storm skilfully and hopefully you will be able to witness the most beautiful rainbow at the end of the storm.