Today was the last day of my POP (Pen On Paper) exams. Next up, E-exams although it's just two papers, all objectives.
I want to talk about the rare specie of people who haven't been around a while.
Who are these people? Definitely not superman or batman but totally human with high level of relativity because they "once were".
That phrase "once were" means they haven't forgotten their roots. They haven't forgotten who they are, what they fought for and their ultimate purpose.
These people are hard to find now. Is there some kind of virus going around?
It's like the amount of considerate people are vehemently low compared to the selfish bulldozers.
An example. You're coming out of school and you don't bother giving a lift when you know you can. Same trait in churches or wherever. No one wants to help. They just don't care.
My schoolmate argued that it's because we don't ask and he may be right but it's still bull. This also refers to a lot other areas.
Gone are the days we'd actually help an elderly with luggage because we've heard stories about how people disappear afterward.
Gone are the days we lend a hand because someone did same for us. Now it's the They didn't ask. Truthfully, if they did, would you help?
While most of us feel to help a lot but actually can't because we don't have the resources, we should actually record it at the back of our minds what we observe and call bad so we don't emulate the same thing.
My schoolmate said, "everyone claims to care till they are tested."
Fact, I'm the most selfish person I know and it's really hard to put someone or something else above you but it's always worth it when that person smiles or is grateful.
Be among the Rare species who express gratitude to someone even if they are not on your social standing. Be polite and say please when you want something. Don't feel entitled even if you are. It's manners.
Apologise when you are wrong. This is the hardest thing to do. No one likes to be criticised or seen as dumb. Sometimes, I get that way but I am trying to emulate the attitude of a child when necessary.
Humility isn't a talent, it isn't a gift. It's a virtue that is groomed with time.
Don't feel too big to commend someone on a job well done even if that person is just a Gardener or driver.
"And so? I pay them. They are employees. I don't treat them bad."
"Why should I say thank you after I've paid my bus fare? He's the one to say thank you."
"I should beg my wife to serve me food? I should say please? What is she there for? And why should I say thank you? I paid for what she cooked!"
These are little things that destroy character. You forget why you exist. You forget (by the time you get to the top) that you were once at the bottom. Make it your mission to say thank you as often as you can. Give compliments. Commend your underlings or let them know you actually acknowledge them. Do unto others what you'd like done to you. I felt so good when Belemo praised my growth on Hive. It was a boost to do more. To be more.
Saying things like thank you, please, I'm sorry, well-done, I'm proud of you, You have done well, you look really good, don't put it past you. Don't forget that the simplest form of acknowledgement can go a long way in nurturing a relationship.
I remember something in my previous job. I went to get something for my boss at a shop and the girl was very...not pleasant. I told myself, "I'm never coming back here." At the same time, I swore to myself never to treat customers that way because I felt like shit and I wouldn't want anyone to feel that way too. Also, I want them to come back.
No matter how much money, beauty and power you have, only character can truly earn you respect.
Be a Rare Specie.
