Now according to the science, coffee is either injurious to your health or will help you live longer, so I intend to test the latter theory, keep drinking coffee and see how long I can live.
My inability to put the letters N and O together has proved slightly more troublesome. Yes, you’ve guessed it, I’m just the girl who can’t say no, well hardly a girl but I think we’ll leave that one alone. My brother says I’m a doormat with no backbone, but I consider myself an agreeable person and proof that you can please all of the people all of the time.
I’ve said yes to loans I knew had no prospect of finding their way back to me, I've opened my door to friends at obscene o’clock and despite my feet being made for walking, I once spent many long months in a Dutch folk dancing group just because I was unable to get the word no out of my mouth forcefully enough to leave no possibility that it meant yes.
My twinkle-toed days only came to a halt when one of the other dancers upbraided me saying 'You learn now 6 months and yet you go backwards when all the rest we go forward.’ The Dutch are very blunt like that.
Another time I had a friend stay in my house for almost a year, as every time he asked if he could stay just a few more days, I said yes even though I meant no.
About 10 years ago I broke up with a guy I’d been living with for 5 years. It was amicable enough but I was certain that I made it clear we were over. He left, but about 2 months later he arrived back at my door suitcase in hand and walked in as if nothing had happened and he was returning from holiday or something. I ended up living with him for another 3 years!
Google says that this addiction to being agreeable stems from a fear of rejection, but that hardly applies to me. Sure, amn't I far too fine a person for anyone to reject me?
I did once try some assertiveness training but when after the first lesson the tutor wanted me to stand in front of the class and talk about myself for 5 minutes, I left and never went back. Sure if I were able to do that, I wouldn’t need the assertiveness course, now would I?
I heard somewhere that the meek will inherit the earth, so I’m holding out for that!
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