Hi there everyone! I just got back home from a long hour talk with a friend of mine. Which I intended to help in terms of destroying her self doubt and help her to believe in herself.
I felt great! And exhausted. Hahaha I used a lot of emotions and energy when i talk. And i really wish she could bring something to ponder upon at home. And thus, seriously taking my advice in pursuing her passion ♡
One of the things that I shared with her today was, Limiting Beliefs. She seemed to be puzzled. Seeing her reaction, I explained to her about it.
LIMITING BELIEFS ARE FALSE BELIEFS THAT YOUR BRAIN WAS TRICKED INTO BELIEVING
Her eyes widened, as to show to me that she wanted to know more about it. And I continued talking...
We developed limiting beliefs throughout our life experiences. Based on what happened to us and how we were raised. Limiting beliefs are what we believe we are.
For example, you are afraid to make the decision to push yourself to make that big sales. Because you unconsciously believe that only ambitious hustlers with great confidence and work ethic dedication deserve to close such big sales. And you are not them. So you did not make such effort in your work ethic to work as hard as the ambitious hustlers because there is no point in doing that if you are not going to succeed anyway.
You see, this type of thinking or mentality is what we called limiting beliefs. And from the word, limiting... these beliefs limit you. They hinder you from taking such a huge life changing leap. Because you are condemning yourself. You are putting yourself down by having this thoughts.
YOU ARE YOUR BIGGEST BULLY
There are cases of people who got bullied in school or at work... and we condemn those bullies who bullied these people. But have you ever realized that.. all this while, you are the biggest bully of yourself?
Have that thoughts ever crosses your mind? If no, then I'm glad I am able to tell you this. Because you are always angry at people who take advantage of you, you always blame your situation, you always blame other people for what had happened to you. But have you ever check what kind of things you throw to yourself every time?
When you look in the mirror, did you cringed at your reflection?
When you are being offered a great opportunity to change your life? Did you "talk some sense" to yourself? Saying that you don't deserve this kind of thing? Or that this is way too big to be in your capacity of ability to perform?
Yes. Without you realizing this, you religiously condemning yourself at every opportunity you get.
Do you agree with me now, that you are the biggest bully of yourself?
Now that you have learned about this, it is not the time to start feeling bad or awful. No, it is time to stop doing that. Accept that you did that to yourself your whole life. And vow only to speak love to yourself. And stop condeming yourself. It is painful when the realization hit you.
But why indulge in pain when you can stop and start doing it right?
Why spend your entire life regretting instead of living your life in contentment?
Why not you just stop the negativity and start anew?
You've only got this one life to live. And I am grateful to have realized this before I live the rest of my life bullying myself.
Cheers! 🍻
