Hello hivers, it's nice to be here again.
Before now, I used to say yes to everything.
Yes to helping even when I was tired.
Yes to going even when I didn't want to.
Yes to giving even when I had nothing left.
And you know what I got?
I got used.
I got drained.
I got angry at myself.
Because when you say yes to everything, you are surely saying no to yourself and that hurt.
Listen.
Saying no does not make you wicked but rather it makes you wise.
Listen to these;
Boundaries are not disrespect.
If someone gets angry because you set a boundary, they were benefiting from you having none.
Know that real people who love you will respect your no as your decision.You cannot pour from an empty cup.
You keep helping everybody and you are empty. Now, how will you help yourself? Rest.
Recharge.
And say I can't do it today and don't feel guilty about your decision.People will adjust.
That friend who always calls you to do their work, once you say sorry, I can't in two consecutive times, they will find another way.
And that is okay.
You can start small like;
- I can't come today, maybe next time.
- l don't have money to give right now.
- l need some time alone.
No long explanation.
No big grammar.
Just capital NO, with respect.
From today, protect your peace like your life depends on it because truly it does.
When last did you say no and people thought you changed?
Share with me in the comments.