Hay personas que todo es plata. Para ellas no existen los favores, sino transacciones comerciales. Esto es algo que me hace corto circuito, no conecto con gente así; porque no se puede, ya que no existirá amistad real, sino relación: cliente - proveedor.
Viví cinco años en Tenerife. Cuando volví a Venezuela, me di cuenta de muchas cosas sobre la cultura de estos lados del caribe. El primer choque fue en el aeropuerto con los carga maletas; trabajo totalmente innecesario. En España los carros se pueden llevar hasta el estacionamiento. Se les coloca una moneda, que se devuelve cuando lo conectas con otro carro.
Llegar al aeropuerto de Venezuela y tener que dejar el carro en la puerta de salida, es estúpido y un poco frustrante. Ni siquiera entiendo para qué los ponen, si solo los usarás por 30 metros. Pero hay que darles trabajo a esa gente, que para mí son una mafia.
Cuando llegas al estacionamientos te esperan varios lugareños, para "ayudarte" a mover las maletas y subirlas en tu vehículo. Por esos favores deberás darles propina. Estas son cosas que cualquier ser humano sano, las debe hacer. Es lo mismo que los empaquetadores en los supermercados. Cuando estuve en España me di cuenta de lo innecesarios que son, pero aquí nos volvimos más que flojos, inútiles.
Seguro piensan que me salí del tema, pero no. En España recibí ayuda, por cosas simples y nadie me pidió dinero. Cuando llegué y algo se me caía, podía estar alguien para recogerlo pero me pedía dinero. Aquí sientes que por todo debes dar propina.
Lo mismo pasa a nivel de conocidos. Incluso en Hive me ha pasado mucho. La gente no termina de entender que esto es una blockchain colaborativa y para todo sale el "cuánto hay pa eso". A veces es difícil concretar alianzas con gente que recién comienza aquí, ya que no han asimilado el concepto de descentralización.
Hay gente que quiere votos asegurados, porque "se lo merecen" y si no, se van despotricando. Algunos piensan que estamos desesperados porque vengan.
Esta actitud, proviene de la carencia. Incluso yo la tuve un poco, en la crisis de 2017. Todo el tiempo pensaba que debía ser productivo y limitaba cualquier acción que no me diera dinero. Sin embargo siempre he sido creyente de dar con miras al futuro, construyendo a largo plazo, aunque en esos tiempos necesitara de dinero rápido para sobrevivir. Eso es lo que mucha gente no entiende y por eso le pone precio a todo, incluido sus favores.
Lo que no terminan de comprender, es que así alejan verdaderos tesoros, que a futuro les pueden dar mucho más de lo que piden en el momento. Una buena amistad vale mucho más, pero cuando la gente está necesitada y desesperada, perderá toda perspectiva.
En Europa se ve menos eso, porque no hay tanta necesidad. Aquí los favores los convirtieron en servicios. Aquí si regresas algo que no es tuyo, esperas recompensa, o peor, la piden. En España sería impensable. El EEUU me pasó que no tenía sencillo para pagar en un macdonals y la mujer que estaba atrás de mí, me pagó todo el almuerzo y no dejó que le diera dinero. Aquí seguro que te cobrarían comisión 🤣
Quizás este post debería ser en Catarsis, pero siento que la raíz es una profunda emoción de desvalía y miedo. Son cosas que se deben sanar, para que el dinero incluso fluya, es necesario practicar el desapego.
Me alejo de gente así. Si por todo me vas a cobrar, no pretendas mi amistad, no busques alianza, sociedad, ni nada parecido. Publica tus tarifas en Instagram y veré si te compro.
There are people for whom everything is about money. For them, there are no favors, only commercial transactions. This is something that short-circuits me; I can't connect with people like that because it's impossible—there can be no real friendship, only a client-supplier relationship.
I lived in Tenerife for five years. When I returned to Venezuela, I realized many things about the culture on this side of the Caribbean. The first shock was at the airport with the baggage handlers; a totally unnecessary job. In Spain, you can take your car to the parking lot. You put a coin in, which is returned when you connect it to another car.
Arriving at the airport in Venezuela and having to leave your car at the exit gate is stupid and a little frustrating. I don't even understand why they have them, if you're only going to use them for 30 meters. But you have to give work to those people, who, in my opinion, are a mafia.
When you arrive at the parking lot, several locals are waiting to “help” you move your suitcases and load them into your vehicle. For these favors, you have to tip them. These are things that any sane human being should do. It's the same as baggers in supermarkets. When I was in Spain, I realized how unnecessary they are, but here we have become more than lazy, we have become useless.
You probably think I've strayed from the topic, but I haven't. In Spain, I received help with simple things and no one asked me for money. When I arrived and something fell, there might be someone there to pick it up, but they would ask me for money. Here, you feel like you have to tip for everything.
The same thing happens with acquaintances. It has even happened to me a lot at Hive. People don't quite understand that this is a collaborative blockchain, and for everything, the question “how much is there for that?” comes up. Sometimes it's difficult to form alliances with people who are just starting out here, as they haven't assimilated the concept of decentralization.
There are people who want guaranteed votes because they “deserve” them, and if they don't get them, they rant and rave. Some think we're desperate for them to come.
This attitude comes from a sense of lack. Even I had it a little bit during the 2017 crisis. I always thought I had to be productive and limited any action that didn't make me money. However, I have always believed in giving with a view to the future, building for the long term, even though at that time I needed quick money to survive. That's what many people don't understand, and that's why they put a price on everything, including their favors.
What they don't fully understand is that this drives away true treasures that could give them much more in the future than what they are asking for in the moment. A good friendship is worth much more, but when people are in need and desperate, they lose all perspective.
You see this less in Europe because there isn't as much need. Here, favors have been turned into services. Here, if you return something that isn't yours, you expect a reward, or worse, you ask for one. In Spain, that would be unthinkable. In the US, I didn't have enough cash to pay at McDonald's, and the woman behind me paid for my whole lunch and wouldn't let me give her any money. Here, they would definitely charge you a commission 🤣
Maybe this post should be in Catharsis, but I feel that the root cause is a deep emotion of worthlessness and fear. These are things that need to be healed. For money to flow, it is necessary to practice detachment.
I stay away from people like that. If you're going to charge me for everything, don't expect my friendship, don't seek an alliance, partnership, or anything like that. Post your rates on Instagram and I'll see if I buy from you.
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