In all my life, I have not attended a lot of wedding ceremonies, but with the few I have attended, I have noticed some patterns that I am not really a fan of. Generally, I love wedding ceremonies so much, especially those that are always intentional about their special day. From the design to the colors to the arrangement and the overall setting. However, there are some things common about weddings that I have noticed over time. I will try as much as I can to avoid these things on my own wedding day. My view is limited to Nigerian weddings for now, because I am yet to see how weddings are done in other places.
The first thing is the rowdinenss, oh Lord! Most weddings are always disorganized, no matter how much they try. People will be going out, coming in, and heading to the walkway or the main front to take pictures or videos that they probably won't watch again. In cases where bouncers are around, these people will still find their way one way or another and make the whole environment disorganized and chaotic. They will even be blocking the views of the people calmly seated. I have been to a wedding gig with my boss before, and people kept entering his frame while he was trying to take pictures of the bride and groom.
This next one is common to other events as well, aside from weddings, and it involves the arrangement of chairs around the table. You are confused, right? You know, if chairs are arranged around a table in different sections, some will be facing the stage, some will be by both sides, and the others will be backing the stage. The part I have an issue with is those chairs backing the stage. Why? Why should I have to turn my head 360 degrees or turn my chair to see the people I came to celebrate with? This often leads to the scattering of chairs and, gradually, a disorganized hall. I think there should be a way to modify that and make the arrangements better to maintain orderliness, so all the guests can have a wonderful time at the ceremony.
Another thing I have issues with is the overall handling of everything relating to food and drinks. Most of the time, they are always fighting in that section. I went to a wedding last year, and these two women engaged in physical and verbal violence because of this same food issue. The way these servers behave like small gods because they are in charge of food is always surprising. I understand they have a job to deliver, and people can be greedy as well, but at the same time, it is not meant to be that serious. Most of them will hide food, meat, and drinks for purposes I don't know about. Who are they hiding it from and keeping it for exactly?
Apart from the servers, some people also do too much! They will be acting as if they haven't eaten before in their lives and collecting food multiple times. I think this also contributes to their always announcing that either food or meat had finished. There should be a structure to these things to ensure everyone is well catered for. So many people just act greedy, and it is very irritating. Those servers will also be looking at faces before serving them; are they not all guests that decided to grace the occasion? If they were very concerned about the people that were meant to attend the wedding, they could have been strict with their invitation process. All those eye screenings and seclusions can be very embarrassing.
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