The idea of "how you should be better" often stems from external expectations, societal norms, or even our own inner critics. It's about striving for improvement or growth, but sometimes it can feel like there's pressure to be something you're not, or to constantly change to meet certain ideals.
However, the beauty of true connection, especially in friendships, is that it isn't about constantly changing or improving to meet an idealized version of yourself. Instead, it’s about growth that comes naturally from being accepted and understood, with the freedom to be who you are in the moment.
When someone tells you “how you should be better,” it can sometimes feel like a critique or judgment that overlooks your current state, your struggles, or your unique qualities. The pressure to always be better can be exhausting and discouraging, especially when it doesn’t allow space for self-compassion or acceptance.
On the other hand, being surrounded by people who accept you as you are—while still encouraging growth in a supportive way—creates a balance between self-improvement and self-acceptance. In these relationships, "being better" isn’t about changing who you are to fit someone else's mold, but about evolving naturally, at your own pace, in a way that feels true to you.
What do you think about the idea of being "better" in relationships? Does it feel empowering, or does it feel like something more pressured?
