…continued…
Relationship shouldn’t be approached as a trial and error or let’s see how it goes. You are bound to hit the bottom with an approach like that. Value your life. Value your feelings. Your life is important and you will only prove to me how important you think you are by the kind of things you allow. If you don’t value or love yourself enough, I will know by the things you allow into your space and by the things that bothers you. Love yourself enough and don’t give discount.
The desperation for a relationship has led many into the kind of temptation that made them pray to God to deliver them from evil. Beware of a guy that asks you for money right after you started dating. He would lie that he has been owed several months of salary and leave out the part that it is just one month. He would give you a huge figure that he is expecting just to make you feel ease and calm and when you find out about the truth, he will turn the whole thing into a fight, and you will start feeling regret as to why you bother asking. He is only putting up a show. You will feel bad for asking because he has indirectly conditioned you into thinking he was doing you a favour by dating you.
It is better to wait than to rush. Most of the times, we feel pressured to own somebody. This pressure can be a societal pressure of family pressure. You don’t have to respond to it. Rise above it. I know how many people kept singing into my ears about marriage before now, but I know marriage is a long term project. Don’t go into it when you are not ready. Don’t meet people’s standards today and cause yourself a lifetime of misery. You need to choose carefully and wisely too. I am not saying you have to get someone perfect, no one is, but at least get someone who cares about you, who wouldn’t let you face and do things alone, and someone who is willing to show a bit more effort and ready to go that extra miles for you. Why? You life depends on it!
There are some situations that require common sense and the matter of the heart requires it. Don’t always rely on your feelings. Think with your head. Don’t always go for looks; go for personality; who the person is on the inside. Why? Looks might fade.
…to be continued…
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
