“Uncle…Uncle…Last night my daddy was beating my mummy but my mummy did not cry”
That was how my factory settings was formatted in just few seconds by piercing words from a seemingly mild tone. With Junior’s anxious eyes firmly fixed on me and his curiosity heated above 100 degrees, I could feel the flames of his burning curiosity.
-He saw something
-He heard something
-He wanted to be convinced that the dim images he saw was real and compare with what he already knew
A mere look into his innocent eyes, I could easily delude what that childish 4 years old mind was thinking.
-Why would daddy beat mummy when they taught me that fighting is bad?
-But why didn’t mummy cry?
-why was mummy asking daddy to beat her more?
-Does mommy enjoy being beaten?
-Is crying only for children like me?
For long seconds I was drowned in deep thoughts. Imagining every possible reply that would satisfy the child’s curiosity, erase the negative thoughts that were gradually building up in his mind and at the same time, not contradict what his parent had taught him.
-If I tell him that his parent were fighting, it would make them appear hypocritical; teaching what they don’t practice.
-If I tell him they were having sex, what words would I use to explain sex to a four years old and what impact would that have on his magnetic mind?
Like Junior, many parents have practically taught their children what they verbally warn them against.
-It happens in the dark
-The children are asleep
-The know nothing
Those are some of the dumb umbrellas some parents hide to abuse their children ignorantly. Just listen to what Junior said next
“They will play together during the day but at night instead of sleeping, they will be fighting. I wonder what mommy does that makes daddy beat her every night.”
Now, let me ask parents and intending parent
-That child sleeping, mosquitoes no dey bite am?
-Him no dey get nightmare?
-How sure are you that he will remain in a state of coma throughout the period you are under anointing?
-How sure are you that you won’t make a sound out of pleasure or pain and thus wake the child?
Apologies to those with a Pharisee conscience but this has to be treated raw…AS E DEY HOT
We know that globally, scholars are advocating for children to be taught sex education but not the practical uncle and Aunty.
We know that just as economy is hard, so also a man’s weapon is hard every night and the reproductive organs are the most illiterate part of the body. But they are yours and what is under your control must not rule you.
Uncle, I am not saying that living in one room as a family is a sin for we all know how difficult things are. I am not also telling you to abstain from sex which is totally impossible. But you need to balance your sexual responsibilities to your partner with your moral responsibilities to your kids.
-Can you manifest when the children are out? Maybe when they are in school?
-Can you send the kids on vacation, maybe during weekends?
-or better still, lock yourselves inside and let the kid play outside while you are discussing how to pay their fees.
