The barbershop is a staple in everyday men’s grooming. Some people go often, others not so much, and maybe some no longer go at all and do it themselves. As for me i go once a month and always have the same cut and beard trim and shape up. I am also very loyal to my local barbershop and have been going to the same one for the last few years after my previous shutdown.
The barbershop is the spa for men. I find it so relaxing to hear the scissors cut through hair while the barber combs simultaneously and the feeling after it is all done is amazing you feel new, you feel comfident. Normally at most barbers you will encounter small talk i must confess i used to keep very quiet when getting my hair cut i like to just relax and enjoy the cut but over recent years as my social comfidence has increased i now engage in talk with my barber that is much more than small talk.
The good thing about my Barbershop is that there are at most 5 workers that work there so getting to know them all over 4 years has been relativly easily. It is a Turkish barbers as they are quite popular in my city Norwich and i assume that is similar to other places in the UK and maybe even around the world.
Upon arrival to the barbershop coming in soaked from the downpours of rain outside i got comfortable on the waiting seating whilst two workers cut customers hair and before i could scroll Hive it was my turn. I had a barber today that i haven't had cut my hair in a while so it was nice to have a change. I sat in the warm leather chair and had a large cover thrown over me and snuggly tied around my neck and secured with some barber tape and so the cut began.
While the trimmer glided accross my head shaving off the hair me and the barber started with the standard small talk and as it is almost christmas the hot topic was of course christmas plans and new year. I assumed it be the standard small talk but instead it turned into a nice deep conversation in which the barber opened up on some lonelyness struggles and that he has his family to spend christmas with but no friends and no goals for 2026. Although it was sad to hear this, I found it very intriguing. Here we are, barely acquaintances, yet opening up and talking as if we know each other very well. Im unsure if my talk helped him in anyway but his words did help me and might even influence my 2026 goals. The talk jumped across a small range of topics about trying to better ones self and enjoy life. We talked christmas dinner and the stuggles of financally pleasing everyone and yourself during the festive period. Regardless of his religion and if he decides to celebrate christmas it is great that he will be spending the time with family. After the holidays talk we then talked about our lonelness a little bit more discussing how he works at the barbershop and then goes home to play videogames as he has no friends here and me that also works and goes home and will either play video games, spend hours on Hive or just be at home in general becuase like him i don't have many friends here. This then leaded into the topic of vacations in which he said his solo trip to Rome, Italy was the happiest time of his life and upon thinking back to my vacations i was very happy too. The conversation then turned into football talk as most of the time that is what is always discussed at the barbers i go too and it was a nice end to a well crafted and enjoyable hair cut.
The barbershop visit today was amazing Not only do i feel comfident in my appearence and feel good i also now feel inspired and uplifted. I hope it inspires you to open up or just talk in general whether it is at a barbershop, pub, coffee shop anywhere having a conversation can do the world of good for you. Everyone out there has a story to tell and it is refreshing to know that there are people out there that feel the way you do. Whether you believe in mental health or not i will always encourage you to talk.
This will wrap up my post for today, Thanks for reading.
