It's situation and trauma that cause hyper independent,no one wishes not to having someone they can lean on,Anyone living a hyper independent life is definitely from a place of pain and survival.

I didn't plan to be strongly independent but I came from a family that everyone of us was struggling on our own to make ends means,so no one to call on or go meet. It wasn't my choice,life chooses for me oo because sometimes I just wish I have people to rely on and I don't have to be this independent of a thing,I do get overwhelmed with this whole independent thing sometimes.