Certainly giving a warning is fine, as you say, everyone decides to do what they want, so we should be kinder when thinking about using the phrase, and yes, it can be a lack of empathy
Identifying with the porcupine because of the thorns, reflects how hard it is to get to feel hurt and be able to hurt, but deep down you are a very sweet person, as you say, a mixture of sweetness and hardness, thanks for sharing your experiences friend,
!LADY
!PIZZA