Thank you Josie!
I realize I'm not her rescuer, and I do try to convince her that she is not a VICTIM.
The past is past. Live in the now. Her parents are dead. New tormenters have come along, but she lives alone now, in a tiny house in a tiny town, and I do my best to show her all her successes and all the ways she brings color, beauty, kindness, compassion, etc, into the world (she's an artist and a writer and she feeds wild animals in her garden instead of killing them, as my neighbor does).
Interesting views on hell... my own concern is that we die and we're dead and that's it. NOTHING. No awareness, no memories, no anything. Millions of people cope with the loss of a loved one by believing we'll be reunited in a next life. I have no such certainty - just hope!