I love your writing, the way your real life slips in between the words like butter adding so much to dry bread, or like the unseen spices that make the difference between a gourmet spaghetti sauce and a sour red tomato paste. Those little vignettes of truth, your truth, your life - maybe these are part of what sets your writing apart, gives it an authenticity (a punch in the gut too!) that so many writers seem to be missing.
Just revisited a book about writing (how many of these can the market support??) -
"Don Quixote Meets The Mob: The Craft of Fiction & The Art of Life" by Susan Taylor Chehak, a graduate of the University of Iowa writing workshop, a former student of John Irving, a teacher.

#ferocious - that may be the word for what you do so well!