Why taking the first step is so hard?
Two days ago was my first time taking the iniciative to talk to a guy that i liked, and actually i don’t know why it took me so long and why was it so scary. Every boy that i know have done this like a million times in their lifes, and i don’t see them as freaked out as i was. Why is it like that?
To be honest, i am a little bit mad at myself because i don’t know why am i so used to the idea of the boy talking first when it is actually the most stupid thing ever. I can talk first to anyone, i don’t need to wait for someone to text me, i am a grown up person and i am madure enough to do it by myself.
Even if you “fail”, if that person doesn’t want to talk to you, it’s completely okay. Why is that something bad? You tried and that’s what matters. In my point of view, taking risks is the most important thing in your life, because if you don’t, how do you expect to reach something or to have a success in your life?
Now, i’m sure that if i want to talk to someone, i will do it. After this, i’m ready to take more risks.
To socialize is the most hard thing for me, i get so nervous and then i get paralized. I don’t like to meet new people because i am afraid they won’t like me or if they will think any other bad thing. Guys, if we don’t talk to others, we probably won’t grow up. We learn from each other, we need to do lots of group works, to get to know people, to have friends; that’s life. I still need to work on that, i still have plenty of years to learn things and to get my fears away.
In conclusion, if you want something, go and make some good effort to get it, because it won’t come to you as easy as you think.
Apply this to anything in your life, not just with relationships, i mean this with school, work, sports, hobbies, etc. I’ve been doing my best to do this everyday, to do the best for me and to make me grow up.
Try new things, you won’t regret it.
