The best way to balance yourself and unite is to engage in art. Art is a way of self-expression and self-acceptance. With that help you can get rid of the negative and practice your feelings.
I do not know how to draw as an artist, I do not know how to write poetry like a great poet. But when I get nervous, I can paint something or try some syllables.
Of course my delights can not be classified as works of art. But for me it is art. It is an expression of my thoughts and feelings that I can throw on paper. And after that I became calmer and even happier.
Art is a great tool for overcoming your emotions and bringing health benefits. And this is very useful if you have problems with verbal expression.
Art will give you food for the mind. It's hard to beat your head with problems, fears and paranoia if you have an idea you want to make. Keep thinking about positive things, for example, like a painting or a statue, so negative thoughts do not even have a reason to show up.
It helps self-esteem and self-acceptance. It can help those who need to "accept" themselves. Realize that art is based on your feelings, emotions, and thoughts. You do not need anyone's consent. You manifest feelings, give them life. Art will help to realize that you really do not have to please anyone.
Art is subjective. This means that other people do not need to understand it, should not like everyone. What matters is what you do. Your creations will not always cause an emotion in everyone, only in some people, and that's normal!
Express your negative feelings. In this world, there are many people who do not like to communicate verbally ... Especially when it comes to personal matters, such as self-loathing or depression. This can be a good alternative for you. Write a novel or poem, draw, play, create.
Any way to tell what's going on in your head, all that is negative is a good way to prevent the "germination" from feeling bad. After all, with expression, the creation of art, you simply get rid of them, release them in the form of music or dance, poetry or drawing.
There are many free tutorials on the Internet. There is a book in the local library. Find space for classes if you have a chance. In case of disability, therefore you can not work with your hands, you can always find alternative options, so do not give up.
Self-esteem will rise. Over time, you will learn to be proud of your achievements. You will feel that your own art gives you joy, without anyone's consent. And if other people admire your creations - take it as an added bonus. The important thing is that YOU are happy.
This is an art that helps me become easier.