BUILDING TRUST IN RELATIONSHIPS AND FRIENDSHIPS In this prompt we invite you to share with us, what does trust mean to you? What is friendship and relationship? Have you ever lost your trust in someone and did you give them a chance to rebuild and tell us if they did? Do you believe trust can be rebuilt?
Trust is the thin line between friendship and a relationship. As friendship develops, there is a need for trust, transparency, good communication, and honesty to oil the relationship. Most times, people take advantage of the weaker vessel in relationships. Trust is the confidence I have when I know that my friendship with someone is genuine, even behind closed doors.
Samuel Rodriguez
Conversely, friendship is a bond that is built over time with a loved one through thick and thin, while relationships happen during friendship.
I have learnt not to trust too much because I have been beaten once, and now I am twice shy.
We met at school, and I found in her a true friend. Over time, we built trust in each other and started confiding in one another. Along the line, we decided to join funds to run a joint venture. She brought the business Idea, and I, the source of supply for the product (Mary Kay products)
Furthermore, she brought buyers who buy off the product quickly. Within a short while, she started diverting the funds. Each time I queried, she would say that the buyers had not paid. When the excuses became unbearable for me, I launched an investigation and found that she diverted the funds to another business, which slowed down the turnover rate and ROI. Meanwhile, I contributed 70% of the fund while she brought 30%. I was devastated by her actions and felt deeply sad and betrayed.
I completely lost the ability to love and trust again. I struggled to believe her words even after she apologised and showed remorse for her deeds. Yet, I was afraid of being hurt again.
Anna Selle
However, after several attempts and sincere conversations with her, I gave her a chance to correct her mistakes. She showed steady improvement, even though I was still not happy with her.
Afterwards, I could not hold back, so I spoke to myself and opened for healing. It took time, but gradually, I let go of all bitterness and grudges and became practically happy, and we moved on. We mended all broken walls and gave peace a chance, but our friendship never remained the same. We lived with the cracked but unnoticeable holes.
We rebuild our friendship through an honest and open process where my friend showed genuine remorse and the capability to make amends. Again, we both worked on our relationship. My friend showed dedicated action in doing things differently and more transparently. I complemented her effort by opening and accepting her genuine repentance.
In the end, the two of us learnt from the incident and became better versions of ourselves.
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