Friends!
Holding the pain of your own experiences, lack, and relationships feels so good...for a moment...
Being able to control what comes in, but more what comes outs is so safe. Logical really, most of us live from the heart anyways, it feels good to be able to control things, being able to protect yourself from life...from love...from purpose...
In reality, protecting yourself from the big bad world is a way for your heart to gradually imprison you into a life of shame. Generally starting from real pain you experienced, slowly morphing into a lifestyle of fear, ultimately ashamed of what has happened or what you may be interpreted as.
You are incredible - refuse to allow your shame to be the driver of your life. Engage the process of allowing your fear and pain to surface - stare them down - free yourself from the expectations and perceptions of others -
In the pain, real freedom will win the day - shame will be exposed as the imposter of control it is - and the world will experience the real you. Your freaking awesome and your the only one that can be you
Live big