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You see this thing called parenting?? It’s a full time job especially for the moms. Like? I have a lot to say but I'll try to pen it down as briefly as I can. I used to always tell people, especially women that you cannot be career ambitious and be a mom at the same time, especially if you are not coming from preexisting wealth. If you must enjoy both worlds then you have to keep birthing to the barest minimum, say at most two children. While there is no formula to parenting, in my opinion, some things are avoidable especially when we pay attention to our children's growth process.
Again, in my opinion, a child that is properly brought up will barely cause problems to their parents as teenagers. When both parents invest an adequate amount of their time in the child's upbringing, they will still be able to maintain some influence on the child when they become teenagers. The thing is, a child leaving home to a higher institution becomes one of the scariest times for most parents. At this time, they get exposed to all sorts and the parents will not always be there to guide and protect them. In such instances, you can only rely on the discipline that you have instilled in that child. It is at this point that the parents will know if they had done a good job or not.
Something happened recently with a family friend and my parents got called alongside other family friends to intercede. There is this lady who over the years, has single handedly raised her children. She is very hardworking and industrious, but then she chased wealth at the expense of her children's wellbeing because currently, they have no respect nor regards for her.
The disrespect from her older children recently got worse when her teenage daughter, the last child she has, who just gained admission into the Uni was discovered six months pregnant.
It's not enough that she was already far gone before her pregnancy was detected, she doesn't know who the father of the baby is and this angered her older siblings. They called their mother a disgrace to motherhood and all sorts of unprintable names.
When my mother got back from the meeting and was briefing me how it went, I felt really bad for the lady because I know her story. I know how hard she had to work to be able to provide for her children after the death of her husband. The anger of her older children is that how did she not detect the girl was pregnant on time and she's been home a couple of times for the holiday.
Remember what I said earlier about being career ambitious and motherhood... Now, this woman is a billionaire and a business tycoon owning several assets in finance, hospitality, oil and gas etc. Right from time, she has never been really available for her children. The more successful she got, the further she drifted from her responsibilities as a mother.
Given the situation with her teenage daughter and how far the pregnancy has gone, abortion is no longer an option. I had expected the teenage girl to birth the child and then return back to school. Instead, the mother said the pregnancy is the end of her education because nobody will nurse her child for her, which is quite unfortunate.
The deed has been done and the woman might think that it's best to take away the daughter's education but it's not because she just subjected that girl and her unborn child to abject poverty.
