A radical decision with no turning back.

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I tend to be a person who finds it hard to decide, so situations in which I have made radical decisions have been very few, the truth is that only one comes to mind at this time and that is the decision of how many children I was going to have. It is a right and every woman should take ownership of it, because it is our body and no one can take that attribution, just as it is irresponsible to give birth so many times and then not know what to do with your children, children who end up suffering abandonment and needs. It seems like I’m only talking about birth control, but it’s important.

I don’t know if my decision was caused by the economic situation in my country, although it is an important factor when we talk about having children, because you want to be able to give them everything they need to grow up healthy and strong. From the beginning of my sexual life I was cautious taking contraceptives, when my relationship with my husband went up a level so to speak and we made the decision to have a child, it only took me 5 months to get pregnant, a year and a half approximately after the birth of my son I decided to have another child, I felt that I was at the exact moment in my life in terms of stability and age to have my children and I only wanted two.

I always wanted my children not to be too many years apart so that they would grow up being siblings and friends as it happened with my sister, we grew up being accomplices and not as it happened with my younger brother who was born 10 years later and we were his nannies, the truth is I don’t know him, because while he was growing up I was studying at the university and then I moved, I love him he is my brother but I would have liked to be more time with him. The thing is that with my children I did achieve my goal because my daughter was born 2 years 5 months after the boy.

I knew I did not want to have any more children since I was pregnant with the girl, I immediately asked the doctor to sterilize me during the cesarean section because I did not want to have any more children. In this decision my husband never intervened, he was very respectful with my decision, on the other hand I met people who told me that I was very young (I was 28 years old) and if someday I wanted to have another baby or if the relationship with my husband did not work out and I got another man who wanted to have children, what would I do? Well, at that time I was very radical, because my answer was always: let that man come with children of his own because I’m already going to have my own, the least I wanted was to see myself having children from every man I was with. Although it wasn’t necessary, I have been in a relationship for almost 19 years, my son is 15 and my daughter will be 13 at the end of the month. If at some point my relationship ends, I’m already 41, at this age I think less about having children.

So this is the most radical decision I have made and so far I have not regretted it, for now I am dealing with two teenagers that have me very entertained, at times happy and proud and at others I would like to run away 🤣🤣 that’s motherhood, I can’t imagine how women who have many children do it. For me the two I have are enough.