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Lack of communication in life normally leads to the end of a lot of things lack of communication in relationships friendship can be very bad. It is silence that speaks much more than words. Situation where lack of communication during a very good relationship for me I mean I tried my best to communicate but it's just wasn't being reciprocated.
This is my entry for the inkwell weekly prompt and the topic is (SILENCE) This is a story about Brenda a young lady who is in a very promising relationship a very serious one at that and it's looking like definitely going to lead to marriage but what are her challenges poor communication on her own side ,she communicates well with her man but for him it seems he doesn't have a time it always say that he shows his own attention with intentions and not with words.
So on the 27th of January last year that the year 2024 brenda met the love of her life or the social media page Facebook to be precise, and at that moment he was far from her he was at ogun state while she was in Abia state. Well love finds us in strange places and that's how they both connected and built wonderful friendship that blossomed into a beautiful relationship.
It is quite hard to trust people to love you and stay faithful and committed to you from a far but they decided to make it work, one thing about this kind of situation is that communication should always be the keyword in the relationship friendship and whatever it might be that is going on if not suspicions will begin to creep in and everything that has been built will break down down silently.
Well Brenda and David who is the man in her life started their relationship journey disregarding the distance involved with hopes to make something beautiful out of it. It was going well at first they tried to communicate well despite the fact that David was far as he also had what to attend to Brenda wasn't working then so most of the time she was at home.
On some days the communication was sweet and beautiful David always made out of time to check on on beautiful Brenda despite he's busy schedule and without the relationship was heading on the very smooth lane and Brenda was happy because she has been through a lot in a previous relationships.
So on April David was coming down to the east to see Brenda and also attend his grandmother's burial, by that time Brenda had gotten a job at a phone store which took most of her time and she had to work from Monday to Saturday she only had Sundays to herself. So when David came down he was so hard for her to make out time to go and see him.
She couldn't even attend the burial because on that burial day which was a Saturday she was still at work she felt so sad that she was not there for him and then she decided to go see him on Sunday ,that was the next day to make up for not being available tduring the burial and mind you that is the first time she is ever seen David for the first time physically.
So returning from work that Saturday she was super excited that she was going to see him the next day and then she woke up early did her laundry ,and all the house chores she needed to do for the week because she would be working all through the week and then she headed out to see David and also to attend the Thanksgiving service for the burial that was done on Saturday.
So that was where she met him for the first time and he looks really happy to see her and the spend some time together talked and bonded more so David made a very wrong move when she was still there he picked up his phone and called a lady and started asking about how where about and explaining to her in details everything that happened in the burial this bothered Brenda because he didn't even give her that kind of details so who was that that he was talking to.
Well he told her that she was just a neighbor from ogun state and you are giving her that much details she decided to overlook that and let it go. Well David soon had to return to ogun state because the work calls and when he returned to ogun state their communication began to dwindle it wasn't as frequent and it used to be,like it was only Brenda who was putting in effort.
She began to suspect him from the call he made in front of her the truth is that she lost trust in him after he made that call in front of her but she decided to live in the delusion that he was still the man that she knew and believe that he was faithful to her but then what is love without trying to make it up when something goes wrong.
She wrote a very long message to send to him expressing herself her anger how she wanted them to get back to the way they used to be and then she asked herself one big question can she really handle this kind of emotional and mental stress and then she had the answer that she did want to hear no she wasn't ready for that and this love wasn't what fighting for the only fight for.
The only fight for someone that give you reason to fight for them. I'm not saying that long distance relationship is hard to do or that it doesn't work for some people it works but it takes a whole level of commitment and 100% communication to keep it a float because the mind of a human being is vast and a lot of things go through our mind because we all have our insecurities that we are battling with. Well at the end of the day she didn't send the message she typed she held it back to herself and stayed silent because that was the best thing to do then.
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