Oh wow that is really off top. Impressive how arrogant people can be.

And yet another point of comparison - I always tried to talk mostly about her mother's talents to Lily. My therapist once mentioned that every child has an intrinsic feeling of being 50% father and 50% mother until they develop more individualism in puberty. So rejecting the mother is rejecting 50% of the child. Doesn't make my life easier...

Thanks again for sharing all that. I hope you don't mind that I'm comparing to my situation. It's frustrating to see that I really didn't do anything wrong. That it was inevitable, and there's nothing that I could do differently next time. It's easier to be the bad guy, apologize, work on the flaw and make sure it doesn't happen again.