"An Encounter at the Edge of the Forest" by Anna Ewa Miarczyńska
What creates victimhood in relationships?
Expectations and lack of self-responsibility.
Victimhood arises in a being who serves others but doesn't serve themselves in the same way.
What creates empowerment?
Self-responsibility.
Recognizing that only we can love ourselves the way we need to be loved....and that our deepest purpose is to serve.
How does the empowered divine move?
It moves in service to all.
You cannot fully serve someone and suffer at the same time.
You suffer when you have expectations.
How can you be disappointed by someone you're fully committed to serving?
When you have expectations that they are required to serve you in the same way.
How can you be afraid of fully committing to being in service to someone else?
When you are scared of your own willingness to fight and your own tendency to experience suffering.
And when you have an expectation that the feeling of safety is outside of you.
Why waste your time lowering your expectations when you can let go of them completely?
It's only once you commit to loving yourself...unconditionally...that you can let go of ALL expectations of others.
What's keeping you from radically letting go of control and surrendering and opening as love?
Perhaps you still have something to lose.
Relationships have their way of showing you what you are most afraid of losing. And once you can walk through the death of that thing…you will be set free to love unconditionally.
How does one begin to walk through the fear of loving another unconditionally, to step into authentic relating?
Forgive YOURSELF...love ALL of you...not just the "good" parts. This deep level of self-forgiveness with begin to flow into all of your relationships as a softness that can awaken the most dormant, surrendered playfulness.
Photo credit goes to N-R-Gee
If you are in a relationship where you are not offering your heart in devotion or at least doing the inner work to surrender more each day…then why waste your time? Why waste their time?
Set them free!
Greet every person in your life (including the disowned aspects of yourself) with the same awe and respect as a delicate passing butterfly.
If they choose to stay, consider it a miracle.
Loving ALL of you,
💕Pachee
