We live in complicated times. Uncertainty seems to be our daily bread. In my personal case, I decided to embark on a personal adventure at an age when few changes are expected. I am almost 60 years old. I fell in love, moved country, continent and I am starting from scratch. I come from Venezuela, South America, I am a writer and educator and I arrived in Spain, Europe, in a country and a city I had never been to before, without a residence visa, without the possibility of working in a permanent job. Without any certainty as to what the destination will allow me to do. At this moment, therefore, my life is a big question mark, a big uncertainty.

My family was left behind, in Caracas, where I lived all my life, my friends, familiar places, in this new home with Daniel there are many questions, fears, things I have to work on.

Living together is difficult, living as a couple is one of the most difficult things there is. Each person is a particular world of habits, customs, way of being, lived experiences. Even if you have different interests in common, as is the case with Daniel and me, at our age it is difficult to change our habits. I am a day person, I get up early and go early. But Daniel is nocturnal, he likes to stay up until midnight or later. I ended up changing my routine and stay up later to keep him company. He doesn't eat breakfast, I always eat breakfast. He has a diet that favors proteins and usually excludes carbohydrates and even vegetables. He does not eat sugars. This has been good for me, a sweet and carb addict. But I am not so strict and eventually I still consume carbs and sweets.

Well, living as a couple requires many changes, when you are used to being alone. It is necessary to have patience, tolerance, to accept the sides that we do not like about the other person, just as it is healthy to accept the sides of our own way of being that we do not like. Our partner is always a teacher, but we must have the humility to accept and forgive his or her mistakes and that person must do the same. Good communication and respect are very important. Every day is a learning experience for me since I have been with Daniel.

When I arrived in Spain I was worried about two things, that Daniel and I would get along well and that I would be able to adapt to Spanish society. I am a shy person, it is hard for me to converse with people I don't know. I am not one of those people who talk to all kinds of people and wherever they go they immediately make a lot of friends. But to my surprise I have adapted quite well to the people with whom Daniel has ties. He introduced me to his daughters, to his friends in the town where we live, I joined the book club and I feel that people have treated me well. Probably if I had arrived alone it would have been different, arriving with Daniel has made the road easier for me. I have also been cordial with everyone, I respond to smiles and hugs also with smiles and hugs and people like that. At this time I offered them a free creative writing workshop and this has also brought me new friends. It has been my way of adapting to the new society where I live.

As the ABBA song said, money is a fool's errand in the world of the rich. But I am not rich and neither is my husband. But when I lived in my city and in my country I covered my expenses and did not depend on other people. I think that is the biggest worry and fear I have at the moment. Although I can't work in Spain until I get my residency, I can happily work online. But my work situation has been complicated since I have been in Spain, I have had little income and when I have managed to get income online, I have to receive it in Daniel's bank account. After many years of being a freelancer, I don't like to depend on Daniel. I will continue to offer online work, as I did in Caracas, and I hope that the free Creative Writing workshop will help me to get some private students to pay for my classes.

As a migrant, I think that at this moment the most important thing is to face those fears that I have shared with you, to live together, to communicate well with the people around me in this new home and to make an effort to achieve my economic stability. But I feel grateful, because I am in a better situation than many people who have emigrated from my country, because the life of a migrant is not easy. Did you get here? Thanks for reading. Happy Sunday.

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