The habit of being happy enables one to be freed, or largely freed, from the domination of outward conditions.~Source
Here and there I have been dominated my whole life and still am. The first domination comes from a Spiritual being who cannot be fought with while others follow.
I must confess that I am very stubborn and outspoken, especially in the presence of my friends though I am a great listener too and that is why you'd see a lot of my friends put a call to me to talk which I am always thankful of because I get to learn while listening.
Speaking of being dominated, it started in my childhood days when my parents especially my Dad do not want us to go out even to his family's places. He has a weird way of giving answers to us when we say we want to go over to see this person or that person. His question always goes;
Did anyone die there? What are they doing there? When did you start thinking about it?
The first thing that comes to my mind is... "Must something happen before you visit someone?" which is crazy as he doesn't let us go out if something ended up happening and this made me lose interest in going out.
It was insane because I don't like being locked up and because of his dominance I got to be an indoor person to date. I don't like going out, especially to parties.
I have lost count of my friend's weddings and cousins' weddings I have missed. I just see no reason to go out when I can be in the comfort of my room unless work which I know I can't miss and market to get groceries, and also sometimes when I go out to give myself a little pamper.
Although I have been trying to fight off this dominance that has taken over me because I know a lot of people who have been hurt by my insane attitude, and I have to admit I was able to fight it off though not totally.
I attended my cousin's wedding last year and my family found it unbelievable to see that I was indeed alive. Seeing the look on my cousin's face was heartwarming and the crazy thing about the day was that I also made time to attend one of my little sisters' wedding that same day and I was able to meet up. You see... It is all about the feeling.
Another way I felt dominated was when I was very young, 6 years old when my family and I moved into our house. Getting to a new place wasn't that much of a big deal because I have a friendly spirit and am very well outspoken as I stated earlier.
The domination felt in the new area was the language barrier. You see, I wasn't brought up with my native language. I could only speak English very fluently and French a bit but not my native language though I understand it when spoken to me.
The friends I met in my new area enjoy speaking native languages which I end up replying to in English and they never liked it which prompted me to start learning my native language. I have to confess... I stammer a bit when trying to put the words together and my friends make fun of me which gets me damn emotional.
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But I didn't give up though I spoke a little French to the native French speakers around too because they were different native speakers around.
As time goes on, I was able to learn to speak without stuttering though I don't speak respectfully most times because the language has words you can use on adult and age mates and I was damn good with speaking freely which means no respect to an adult listener. This is why I stayed off people older than me when I speak my native language so it won't seem like I am very rude. Just like I stated earlier, it is all about the feeling.
In addition to what has been said about domination, it shouldn't be forgotten that our teachers dominate us too with their experiences in the teaching line. To confess, I believe that dominance is needed to shape us into being good ladies and gentlemen wherever we find ourselves to begin our domination too in some areas of life.
To wrap this up, I see the term domination as a cycle in life. Surely we will meet people who are going to dominate us and their actions will lay an impact on our lives. The ability to stick to the impact made or stage another in our lives is all in our hands when we are fully grown and fit to stand on our own. Remember;
It is all about the feeling. Yours, theirs, and ours.
Some dominations need to be fought and they are some we should allow to take place. Therefore, I am for and against being dominated.
This is my response to the topic by 
Still yours truly,
Balikis.
Thanks for reading.
Peace be unto those who crave it and more to those who chase it away.
