I will start with mindful relationship,I don't have much friends actually,I choose my friends because I love few friends with deep relationship and goals.
Keeping many friends to me is not knowing where I'm going,I love people that resonates with me and we can share the same goals and aspiration.
I am a type of person that focuses more on one person at a time,I can chat with just a person through out the day and not get bored since the person is my go-to person.
I do not like too much of friends,I try to minimize whatever it is I have with anyone,I am fully aware of the kind of friends I keep and I don't gaslight.
I don't keep too many friends not because I'm anti-social or proud but because I value peace, purpose and alignment.
For me quality always outweighs quantity,i don't mind having few friends in my corner,I just love few friends with alignment,what is the essensse of many friends when non of them aligns or resonates with me? I don't believe in fake drama or unnecessary connections, what I build must be meaningful.
I remembered that year,it was the most stressful year of my life,year 2022...The first time I was in a relationship with someone that was not mindful of anything,no shame whatsoever,this is not friendship now,it was an intimate relationship,this person drained me,we were complete opposite in spending,I love to save my money not because I can't spend it but I don't just like buying extra things especially things that are not needed but the opposite is the case for this guy,he can buy everything not needed and most of the time he spends my money.
He comes to my room in school and finish my food within a month,the food I reserve for three months,he doesn't work too,he doesn't want to do anything other than asking his elder brother for money,I was tired so tired of that,the worst part is he was a narcissist and I couldn't keep up at all.
There was no sense of humour, purpose or alignment with me,I lost alot of money,as a minimalist that I am it was really too much.
That experience itself taught me that mindful relationship may seem lonely at first but at the end it will save you from drama,pain or disappointment.
Right from the beginning my relationships are always my choice, something I think of,I don't just accept anyone into my circle including my friends but that one just happened and I made sure I ended it. Good riddance to bad rubbish I would say.
Relationship for me either with friends or partner is always deep so I do not joke with it at all.
outcome of a mindful relationship
1. Healthy boundaries
2.focus and goals
3. You gain healthy habits
4. Lasting relationship
5. Peace of mind
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