The child is born with no fears, except those of falling and loud noises. All other fears have to be taught to the child as he or she grows up. The two major fear we all developed are the failure or loss and the fear of criticism or rejection . We begin to learn the fear of failure if we are continually criticized and published when we try something new or different. we are shouted at and told, NO! Get away from there! stop that! put that down!" physical punishment and the withholding of love , possibilities that scare us and make us feel insecure, often accompany these shouts and criticisms. The fear of failure is the primary reason for failure in adult life. As the result of destructive criticism in childhood, we hold ourselves back as adult. We sell ourselves short. We quit before we even try the first time. Instead of using our amazing mind to figure out how to get what we can't and why the things we want are not possible for us.
