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>Let what comes from outside add up, but don't let it define you. Why? Because learning to trust what you feel, do, decide without waiting for someone else to validate it first... That is not achieved in automatic, that is trained, strengthened, sustained. That's why recognition weighs so much, and when it doesn't come, it feels empty, as if something will be missing to be calm. We become our own enemy, when we choose to ignore what happens from our skin inward. The stability of life is achieved over time, by stages, by cycles, as long as we maintain the constancy and discipline to achieve each goal. If we don't learn to treat ourselves as a priority, no one will do it for us.In short, reaching a certain age and having a well-structured, but not perfect home (with or without children), your true partner, economic stability, a home full of self-love are undoubtedly a certain guarantee of a happy life, we can maybe,... traveling and doing things that we like, we like. Similarly, starting to abandon what is important to you based on pleasing the other or being good is one of the worst decisions you can make. In order for the other to learn to treat you the way you deserve, you have to respect yourself. Respect the agreements you make with yourself. This goes from going to the gym to whatever. Those who love you want the best for you will not expect you to give up what suits you. This reflection of Seneca "is not what touched you but how you endured it.".. today it is more relevant than ever. There is no one who is saved from the difficulty, regardless of whether some are faced with more regrettable situations than others, for everyone it comes down to what you did with what happened to you. In this era of social networks and overexposure we are often left with the morbidity of the event, to know how difficult it was and all the details. But we rarely stop to see that the most important thing is not what happened to you but how you faced it. Many times you don't even have a say in what you have to live, but you will always have a vote in how you choose to face it. It is essential to avoid staying in the pity of the story, of the tragic and learn to put our attention on that which defines us: the way we face life. We all imagine what the life we want to have is like, but not what we have to go through to achieve it. If you really want to have the tools to achieve what you want, you have to prepare for adversity. For example: If I promised myself success, then I prepare and train daily for failure. I accept that things may not go the way I want and that requires mental discipline. Success is not guaranteed, failure, if it is. Do you know, which one you should prepare for first, success or failure?,... personally, I just trust even if I don't know how it's going to happen. Janitze 🌹

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Have you ever felt so?