When we talk about weight gain and weight loss. I think everyone should go with what works for them. Some people will look more beautiful when they are slim and others will look better when they add weight. I'm not talking about being fat but just with a little flesh.
Don't try to do what someone else did and expect the result to be the same. Some had gone on a weight loss journey and came back looking awesome while some had also gone and never returned. Remember, you are beautiful!
My experience had taught me to just be me and healthy always.
I have never been called 'slim' since I can remember and I have really loved myself the way I am because I am beautiful. I had a nice shape as well. When I had my second child I became a bit fatter than usual and my tummy became bigger so, I felt I needed to slim down.
The need to watch my weight made me do a lot of exercises, cutting down my food, eating earlier than usual, taking lemon ginger garlic and a lot of funny things that can make one lose weight.
The journey started without the knowledge of what was in store for me I reduced tremendously and I was very happy and proud of myself. That was when my transfer came. (the one I talked about in my previous post) all the process and the stress of the transfer, coupled with the issue of getting an apartment and being kicked out of the house by my husband's cousin, I became thin. I became a shadow of myself. though I didn't know this because I was still happy that there was no fat left, but I discovered no one complimented my looks. My neck became so long that I was looking like someone with a disease this new me was not beautiful at all. Maybe as a result of how I was before. I discovered that my natural beauty was no longer there my cheeks were all dried up even my hips and boobs.
all my clothes didn't fit me anymore, I had to do adjustments before wearing my clothes.
So, we had a party in the family
house sometime in August 2022. My mom called me after the function and she started asking questions. I wondered why she was asking all the questions and I discovered that it was because of my weight loss. she asked if I was on any medication, if I was thinking, If my husband was treating me well, if my job is going well, if everything was fine and the likes. I answered that all was perfect. she then told me that if I needed anything I could count on her and if I wanted to talk I could talk to her that I was not looking good at all that other extended family members are asking questions. I felt a bit sad but what made me sad the more was a week later when my husband playfully said that all the things he liked to touch were all dried up.
There and then, I decided that I had to gain my weight back. I changed everything. I started leaving normal and by this time also, I had settle down, the stress I was going through had reduced, so I ate well, I rested well, I took multivitamins and then I traveled to my mum during the Christmas holiday, that was December 2022.
I was with my mum for about 4 weeks and she treated me like a new bride. she made me eat very well relax and fed me like I was up for sale. I didn't have any worries about my kids because they make sure my kids were fine, well taken care of. They (mum and siblings) just wanted me to rest and I accepted the offer. when I got back to my base, everyone complimented me they were so happy for me. infact, the way everyone was smiling looking at me you Would think I just recovered from a deadly illness. They said I looked good and this really boost my confidence.
Note: all the pictures are mine.
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