To think that once upon a time you loved this person, could not wait to speak to him, see him, spend time with him. what happens when love goes sour? does love go sour all of a sudden?
People wake up from sleep. From dreams. From stupors. From death. So if you wake up one day and realise things have changed, it does not mean the change just happened all of a sudden. It means it had been happening for a while but you did not pay attention to the little signs. Perhaps because you were sleeping, or dreaming, or distracted. People don’t just wake up and fall out of love. They fall out of love over time, slowly. a little every day until one day, they find, there is very little left.
Love is work. I’ll supply the analogy of weight loss and weight gain. You do not just wake up one day to find you’re obese. In the same way you do not just wake up one day to find you have six pack abs. Getting to any of these extreme states happens slowly over time. You six pack abs by working out over long periods of time. Then one day, presto! You’re there. Similarly, you too much junk today, too big a scoop of ice-cream another day, a king sized pizza next day and then one day, you realise, you’re obese. Unfortunately people do not pay attention to the little signs.
So coming back to love…you don’t just fall out of love if you’re talking and working through things from the beginning. I guess i’ve given you my take on “how love goes sour”.
As to your actual question…what happens when love goes sour…well, you can revive it if both of you are willing. And if both of you recognise that love takes work. Regardless of who you’re with. It will take work with your next partner. Love isn’t something that just miraculously grows and develops by itself. The kind of love that gets better over time…needs to be fueled. "Then one day, you wake up, and things have changed." that's not love. you can't just wake up and not love!!
What happens when love goes sour?
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