𝑫𝒓𝒊𝒇𝒕 𝑯𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒔 𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝑻𝒓𝒖𝒆 𝑳𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝑪𝒐𝒏𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒓𝒔

Someone asked me, why do friends drift apart especially when one gets married or has attained another higher height?

I know for a fact that truly, a few friend will still stick around even though they've now moved one step ahead of their friends while others just disappeared silently.

However, I took me a minute to figure it out that, friendship isn't measured by frequency but genuinity.

I have friends whom I speak to once or twice in many months, but every time we get the time to talk either via chat or call. It's nothing but pure vibes, catching up and real love.

Season changes, so too human schedule changes. I was taught at an early age that, twenty friends never play together for twenty years and that's true.

We outgrow some, and some outgrow us. But we should always wish them well wherever they may be.

Real bond survives amidst new schedules, it's never competitive. "Oh, I called last, he or she should call next," That's not what true bond is all about.

I could write this because of a scenario today. I and my high school friend had been in touch frequently for a long time over the years and it's been so beautiful.

But lately, this year precisely. There was a drift. No regular check in, no frequent calls,it's been a blend of serves of late replies or no replies from both of us. There wasn't a rift.

The truth is, we entered a new phase. She lost her dad and started to learn to carry a new responsibility of catering to the school her dad left behind.

I on the other hand, enrolled in a fashion school which made it so hard to even check in my loved ones. For real, we were both occupied by some many things, anxieties of life, deadlinee and all.

Last week, I tried to reach out to her. She was so cold towards me. It was quite disappointing, cause I felt that, after a long while of no real conversation, we should be excited to speak to each other.

At first, I wanted to return the same energy as the world says "Aura for Aura" But I paused.

I asked myself a lot of thought-provoking questions. "Are you sure she's fine? Isn't this unusual of. Her? Can you find what went wrong first before jumping into conclusion?"

My next decision was to give it sometime. But today, I kept thinking of her, and since I was around her neighborhood for a purpose, I decided to drive down to her school to pay her a surprise visit.

My girl was too excited to see me. She began to apologize for not reaching out all the whole time, and to be honest, she was going through a lot.

It wasn't as though she had outgrown me. It was that season of her life where she needed to fix things and get her life together. I apologized too for not trying so hard to reach out to her and we did some catching up.

We learned to let the friendship thrive in the new chapter that we both were now in. Understanding that our friendship isn't measured by the daily chats or check ins, but measured by genuine check ins no matter how long it may have been.

Even though we are now in different zones of our lives, it's the same love we have for each other that can make the friendship thrive through all the seasons. And it wasn't betrayal all along, it was adulting and life just being life.

I hope we learn right take things slowly when there's a drift in friendships or close bonds. It's not always about us, or what we assume. It might be deeper than we think, or might not even be that deep.

Let's learn to give our loved ones a measure of benefits of doubt, hoping life remains kinder to them wherever they may be.