𝑪𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝑻𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝑨 𝑺𝒆𝒂𝒕. 𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑾𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝑯𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝑫𝒐𝒏𝒆?

It's easy for people to judge a book by its cover, simply because they do not have all the facts. Others feel they are too wise to be outsmarted, until it gets to their turn. Hence, the adage, "you'll never know how it feels until you walk in their shoes."

Come grab a seat. Let me tell you a story of someone who used to judge the choice of other people's job that they were settling for less. "It's too tedious," "I can never take shit from my boss," " I can never accept this range of salary" and so on.

This person made others felt like he was earning millions where he worked and almost started making rules for the next person about what to accept and what not.

When life hit him hard, he got down from his high horse and began telling people he was in serious search of a job, after all, we both know the economy isn't smiling.

When an offer came, it was a job lesser than what he had once judged and written off, and he didn't want to be the talk of the town so out of pride he rejected the offer.

A few months later, we heard he had relocated to another area but as God may have it, the same person he had once talked down on because of the job they do, saw him at his new place of work doing the job he had once rejected. (It wasn't something illegal though but the fact he had rubbished the job made him felt ashamed of himself.)

This made me think things through after such a story, that people will always be people. As long as they're not wearing the shoe where it hurts, they might never know the story behind your choices.

That experience in life has taught me a lot and helped me restructure my mind never to judge a situation I've never been in. Most times we feel we just too good for something, but have life sets in, we realise life is very ironic and its not always easy as it seem.

Often time I hear people say "what will people say?" I laugh so hard when I hear people think so much about what people will say about their choices in life.

The question should be "what have they not said?" Talk is free and so people have the right to say anything they deem fit but just wait for it to be their turn and watch them jump on the offer they expected you to reject.

So many people are even wishing to be you at some point in life, so why would I care to be validated by others?

It helped me mentally to develop a thick skin when it comes to the opinions of others about my life choices. I am aware that I take sole responsibility for my actions and choices and every wrong choices comes with a package of consequences.

This too has taught me to make better choices in life, not as a people pleaser but because I deserve happiness and it cost a lot to get it wrong. Hence I go with my Dad's favorite adage. "Measure once, cut twice." Serving as my daily mantra and a reason never to wait for the next person to validate my very existence.