How about looking at your marriage as a training ground?

A training ground that is sure to exhaust us. !LOLZ.

I think this mindset can be applied to cope with most of the challenging situations. It would groom us. However, it is never easy. Especially with regard to spousal relationship, it is quite difficult.

The whole thing only works if you don't take the everyday moments too seriously

That's a million dollar advice. I need to work on it.

It is not a "problem that will always be solved from now on", but one that always wants to assure itself of your presence of mind.

True. There are certain things and attitudes that never change. It feels like you have solved the problem and you won't be encountering it again, yet at a later time, it stands in our way the same way.

So I assume, without knowing for sure, that you also occasionally take time off from your duties?

When I am seriously ill

If you manage to take them in a relaxed way and not as laziness or neglect of duty, a lot would already have been achieved, wouldn't it?

It would. Hehe. That’s something I desperately need to learn i.e. not taking them as laziness or neglect of duty

You derive some pride or value for yourself from that, don't you? At least that's how I felt when my son was little. Although there were moments when I felt it was a burden. Nothing is always good or bad.

It is the same for me. Sometimes, I do feel exhausted and burdened.

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