Charles's passage through life was both chaotic and interesting. That childhood sickness and separation scarred both him and his siblings and your mother. But Charles did an impressive thing: when he became an adult, he picked the pieces of his life and made something of it, something remarkable.

Your dad woefully failed at his patriarchal duties but it's good it didn't destroy your family. Charles's recent passage from life must have felt like loosing him years ago the night he was taken to the hospital. My condolences. At least you've got happy memories of him and your family you can hold onto which means they will always be with you.