How to make my children obey me
The child is the empty basket that we fill with what we want, and the size we want, which is the white page on which we put the characters, points, and drawings in a deliberate scientific process that has its steps and proper procedure called the process of education, but those children who make up a small community and make the process Education is a social dilemma, a source of inconvenience to parents, especially the mother, because they spend most of the day with them, and some children appear at the age of small signs of nagging, impulsive and non-obedience, mothers resort to many ways to deal with these disturbing behavior, and sometimes succeed Sometimes we fail to find the best way to cooperate with children. We must understand them first, analyze their behavior to reach the keys of their characters, and make them more obedient children.
We should not lose our understanding, our justifications for children, because they do not think like adults, and understanding the child is not a mystery, not a complex process, but it is not a problem. It is not easy, and there are some studies and laws to help us, for example, the child is a human entity in itself, not a different educational situation, and the time in the child psychological time, not social, and the child stubbornly exercise a desire to demonstrate independence, not desire to stubbornness and violation, The reasons, Have a lot of treatment methods, we can deal with children in one of the following methods, which, for example, but not limited to ..
1 - style example / When the adult follows the right example, we find him to practice his life better, as well as children to be role models, will understand the world better, and facilitate dealing with them, so we have to make ourselves role models, And we practice life as if we were observers, because often the misconduct of parents is a cause of non-obedience to children, the child has imitated his older brother in screaming at his father, and his eldest sister to lie to her mother, and so, we gave them a bad picture, , And we have suffered the consequences of poor education.
2 - The method of reward and punishment / We must use these two methods wisely, and warned, and put them all in place, for example, do not resort at the beginning of dealing to the method of punishment, even if Badr Bad behavior abusive, remember that he acted on ignorance and I think it, And the child will appreciate the simple personality of your kindness, and love for him, and will facilitate your requests easier, and your orders, and must be diversified in the reward between the physical, psychological, And social, and if compelled to use punishment, use it gradiently from the look of loathing E, to verbal material and finally, with his show error.
3 - Talk to him / the child loves to understand the world of his sweetness through his parents, so explain to him the reason for this, and the reason of this law, and the reason for this request, say to him, you change your clothes soiled not to get sick, and sleep in bed for days, Painful, and medication once, and until you become a beautiful, lively and intelligent child, the child will remember and love this speech, and obeys your orders.
4 - Do not embarrass him in front of people / Sometimes the child acts stubbornly, and humiliated in front of people, and may become stubborn in case I screamed, or Nahrtih harshly, being nice with him, even giving orders, because embarrassed people will cause him great psychological pain, You are very polite, and you will help me bring hospitality so that Khalto will tell you that you are one ... and you will find it help and improve your behavior.
In the end, we must realize that the child is full of feelings and ideas, a little explorer, to help him discover the world in a more beautiful way.
By: Noha Mohammad