Do you always compare yourself and feel inadequate in the end?
• Person’s educational attainment
• Political power
• Social accomplishshments
• Person’s popularity
• Wealthy
• Person’s special talent
Obviously all these are sources of esteem and these are coming from outside factors or something external – accomplishment, performance, contribution, works, abilities, etc.
SELF-ESTEEM is having a high regard for the self and the source is something coming from external. Every time we esteemed ourselves it is always based from outside factors and dominated by other people. Is it possible to refuse the esteem they give? Why there are still rich people and popular still have low self- esteem?
I must say that no matter how you perform still people will ignore and you feel disappointed by the idea that people will give you the esteem that you think you deserve. A child may perform well in school but received no appreciation from parents. This is a manifestation that self-esteem depends on the external factors or source of esteem.
Since it is coming from external source then you have no control over it. Worse, people may become too addicted from praises of other people and recognitions that he or she resorts to self-worship and it has to be addressed as soon as we become aware of it. With low self-esteem, it is difficult to choose happiness.
Self-esteem is hard to achieve if you habitually criticize yourself.
