Thank you to the Rant, Complain, Talk community for giving me a place where I can write my frustration.
What made me irritated was actually something quite small. At the breakfast table this morning, my partner and our daughter suddenly said, “A friend is coming over today.” 😧
Of course, it’s a good thing that she has friends, and I want to welcome friends coming over. But Tuesdays are the day my partner goes out for running training, which means I am the only adult taking care of the kids.
What about my plans? Why wasn’t I asked beforehand? Why was it just reported after the decision had already been made? And on top of that “Tuesday is the only day possible.” Couldn’t we talk about a few options and decide together?
My daughter said to me, “You don’t have to do anything,” but that’s simply not true. It overlaps with dinner time, and I’m the one who cleans up afterward, and keeps an eye on things. It’s not “nothing.” At least a lot for me.
So I said that this wouldn’t work. In the end, we decided that the friend can only come over when my partner is home, and that my partner and my daughter will take responsibility for walking the friend back.
I don’t know if I’m just bad at dealing with sudden changes (actually this is YES ...), or if German common sense and my own don’t quite match. But honestly, thinking that this might happen again in the future makes me feel tired already. I’d like to think of this as a challenge before something good happens, but right now, I just can’t.
Sorry for ending with a rant that has no happy ending 😢 Thank you, Hive and the Rant, Complain, Talk community, for letting me write this 🙏
(Photo: Birds in a park I’ve been enjoying watching recently. On the coldest day, I even saw several birds standing on one leg.)
数日ぶりの投稿が愚痴になってしまってごめんなさい。そしてそれを書ける場を提供してくれているRant, Complain, Talkコミュニティに感謝。
何にイラっとしたかというと、些細なことなのですが、朝ごはんの席で急に相方と子供が、今日子供の友達がくるよと言い出したのです。子供に友達がいることはいいことだし、友達が遊びに来てくれるのも歓迎したいところですが、火曜日は相方は陸上のトレーニングに出かけるので、子供達の世話をする大人は私だけです。私の予定は・・・？なぜ聞いてくれないで事後報告？しかも「火曜日しか無理」とピンポイント。選択肢を出して両者の合意で決められないのかな。
子供は「何もしなくていいよ」というけれど、お夕飯の時間とかぶっているし、お菓子やお水を出して、片付けをするのは私。何もしないなんてことはないんです。さすがにそれはないと怒って、パートナーがいる時間に限り遊びに来て、二人がお友達を送っていくことになりました。
私に突発的な出来事に対応する能力がないのか、ドイツの常識と私の常識が合っていないのか。今後こんなことがまた起こるのかなと思うと正直ものすごく気が重いです。何かいいことが起こる前の試練だと思いたいけど思えません・・・。
ハッピーエンドでない愚痴を失礼しました 😢 書かせてくれてありがとう、HiveとRant, Complain, Talkコミュニティ 🙏
（写真: このところおもしろくて見に行っていた公園の鳥さんたちで、一番寒かった日には片足で立っている鳥さんもちらほら。）
