When you ask a person : "are you okay?" and he looks into your eyes. The first question he will answer in his heart is :"can I open up to this person? ".
Then he will later answer "I am okay " even though he's broken.
When pain get to its heights, it will always make you feel like sharing it with someone. Then the heart will thirst for understanding, tenderness, softness and kindness. Even then, the need for words will be lesser and more effective. Many are endangered today, possibly because they can't share their stories with someone out there which is you. They are concerned about your mindset.
Anyone can act to be kind and understanding, this act particularly chases wounded hearts away.
When you stigmatize people because of their stories, then you are more dangerous than the pain itself.
Make yourself available for understanding, accommodate wounded hearts and make them heal. Money is not the main thing, it is not compulsory it may just be inclusive.
Many have decided not to open up, because your emotions can't be trusted.
A girl who masturbates, wants to stop but can't stop, searching for possible epitome of solution. Can't open up to you. Because, she knows you will advise her anyway, but you won't let your kids get closer to her anymore, you won't want her to enter into your house frequently anymore and your advice won't be effective anyway too.
That man that dresses well and looks smart, won't want to tell you that he only drinks garri under his roof ,he won't want to tell you that he can't complete his three squares meal. Because he knows the whole street will hear and he won't be able to walk ,shame-free, anymore.
Because people can't trust people, many are endangered.
Pain eats into them like canker worms. And destroy their thought patterns, their feelings and mentalities.
Do you know that pain shared is burden relieved?
You don't know that understanding works faster than pain-killers.
You don't know that warm attitude heals faster than any medicine.
And you don't know that your stigmatization kills than gun powder?
You enjoy the pain of another in the name of gist you see them as unfortunate Just as if you know the frames of situations.
Henceforth, learn not to see people in the shadow of their pasts, learn not to enjoy the shame of others, learn not to stigmatize people.
Be warm, be passionate, understand...
Open the doors of your heart, for them to pour in their hearts..
You can save souls through this.
Many are in the claws of death and destruction out there, many are helpless and suicidal, many voices are tear-furrowed, many teeth are clutched to fight back tears.
They are willing to open up, but because your emotions can not be trusted...
@valchiz